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How Long Does It Take to Recover From Porn Addiction?

Here is the honest answer, up front. Most people describe the hardest stretch as the first two to four weeks. Somewhere between three and six months most say they feel steady. The deeper stuff, the mood and the relationships, commonly runs a year or longer. Those are rough markers, not a schedule. And the reason […]

Accountability Is Not Shame

Shame says, “This is who I am.” Accountability says, “I did this. Why did it happen, and what am I going to do differently?” People often confuse accountability with shame, but that distinction matters deeply in recovery. They may feel similar at first because both involve recognizing that a mistake was made, but they lead […]

Learning to Stay When You Want to Run

Recovery is not only about stopping a behavior. It also means learning how to stay present when a feeling, conversation, or relationship becomes uncomfortable. One of the less obvious parts of recovery is learning how to be uncomfortable. For someone who has spent years escaping difficult feelings, discomfort can feel like a signal: Get out […]

The Nanosecond Between Impulse and Action

Compulsive behavior often feels automatic. Recovery begins by creating a small pause between the urge and the action that usually follows. Compulsive behavior often feels automatic. A trigger appears. A thought follows. An urge rises. Before you have fully recognized what is happening, the familiar behavior has already begun. Recovery starts by creating a small […]

How Common is Porn Addiction?

Pornography is more accessible than ever. With a few taps on a smartphone, anyone can enter a seemingly endless supply of content. But as the internet makes access easier, it raises a bigger question: How common is porn addiction? And does it even qualify as a real addiction? The Debate Over “Porn Addiction” First, let’s […]

The Journey of Lana Rhoades: A Candid Reflection on the Porn Industry and Its Impact

She became one of the most-searched names in adult film — then walked away and said she'd erase it all if she could. This is Lana Rhoades' story. The short version: Why she entered the industry — and how fast she rose Why she now wants her past erased What her story reveals about porn […]

Is Sex Addiction (or Porn Addiction) a Mental Illness?

Is sex Addiction (or porn Addiction) a mental illness? This is a question that often stirs up quite a bit of debate and curiosity. Are sex addiction and porn addiction real mental illnesses, or are they just excuses for certain behaviors? Let's break it down. What are Sex and Porn Addiction? Sex addiction, sometimes referred […]

CAN I STOP THE PULL OF PORN?

Many men desperately want to stop the pull of porn. They want to know “Can I stop? If so, how?” Many of the guys who call mention that they’ve tried to stop, but haven't been able to. So is there a secret? Can you actually get rid of this nagging temptation? At Compulsion Solutions, we […]

Pause, Then Replace

PAUSE, THEN REPLACE You can't just remove your sexual acting out behavior. Yes, you can stop the behavior for a while, but just stopping doesn’t lead to lasting change. That’s because you can’t just remove something and expect it to stay gone. You need to replace it. You need to replace, not just temporarily distract. […]

Carry-On Only, Please!

Your acting out is a symptom — a symptom of a bigger issue. If you only focus on stopping behavior, you don’t get to the root of the problem, and it will continue. You might be able to control your porn addiction for a while — what has been called “white knuckling” — but what’s […]

Is Porn an Intimacy Killer?

Watching porn gives you an unrealistic view of sex. Why is that? It's unlikely that the person you’re in an actual relationship with is going to look like the person you see on the screen. What you see is manipulated — there’s lighting and photoshopping taking place, and so many other things that they can […]

Can I Masturbate During Recovery?

One of recovery's most-asked questions — and the answer isn't a flat yes or no. Here's how to tell healthy from addictive. One of the most common questions I get from the men I help with sex addiction recovery is: Can I masturbate during recovery? Will this set me back? How can I tell the […]

“I’m Frustrated Because My Wife Won’t Initiate Sex” – Sound Familiar?

Working with men who are grappling with sex and porn addictions, I often hear a complaint come up in our counseling sessions: my wife won’t initiate sex and that’s frustrating to me. This is something that a lot of guys deal with. It’s almost viewed as a type of rejection. You yourself express appreciation for […]

Relationship Differences—How Much Is Too Much?

Common beliefs may tell you that it is essential to have the same interests and styles to co-exist happily. Some 64% of married Americans believe that “having shared interests” is very important for a successful marriage, according to the Pew Research Center. In fact, those surveyed ranked shared interests as more essential than good sex […]

Porn is Being Advertised to You (and Your Kids) All the Time

When I work with sex and porn addicts, one of the biggest challenges they face is the fact that porn is being advertised constantly. I don't just mean the crazy emails that end up in your spam folder, or sidebar ads on websites. I mean it's showing up in video games, in public, and even […]

How Countries around the World are Reacting to American Porn

American porn is becoming a more and more dangerous thing every day. We have a nation full of men (and increasingly, women) who are desperate for constant novelty, leading them further and further down the seemingly endless hardcore porn rabbit hole into darker and more fringe territory. And the rest of the world doesn’t necessarily […]

How to Satisfy Your Sex Addiction Symptoms

If you are seeking sex addiction recovery, your symptoms can feel overwhelming. How do you channel that energy and desire in a way that keeps you on-track? Sex addiction recovery will never be easy, but it is always possible. Here are a few brass-tacks ways to satisfy your symptoms and stay on the road to […]

Why is Porn Addicting?

Is porn addicting? Like many other substances and behaviors that cause a dopamine spike in the brain — yes. Our brains are designed to seek the chemical rewards of pleasure, which is what makes it so easy to become addicted to anything that gives us a high-level dopamine hit, whether that be porn, sex, drugs, […]

Men: Look to Your Past. Do You Have a “Me Too” Moment?

In the wake of the terrible sexual harassment allegations against Harvey Weinstein, women all over social media are stepping forward to bravely say the words “Me Too” to show that they have also been victims of sexual harassment or sexual assault. The idea behind this movement is to show how widespread and how prevalent this […]

Is Porn Addiction Real?

To a person who struggles with compulsive sexual behavior like using online pornography, there is no such thing as a “little” bit of porn. A little bit becomes a whole lot, really quick. Despite that intimate knowledge of those who have come to realize that they are addicted to such behavior, many people scoff at […]

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