6 Things That Get Better After Quitting Porn

Porn buttonYou don’t have to be a slave to porn. Below (from one of our amazing clients) are 6 things in your life that get better after you quit porn. You can do it too.

 

Six months ago, my entire day revolved around porn. It was ruining my relationship. It was getting in the way of my goals and plans. It just had to stop, so I embarked upon a path to give up porn. I called Compulsion Solutions because I had decided that it was time to grow up. Now I can undoubtedly say: Life is better.

 

I know that when you first give up any addiction, it can be difficult to be optimistic. If you’re in the beginning stages of giving up a vice, there are days when you are going to hate it. So I want to share some of the things you get to look forward to when you finally kick that crap to the curb…
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1. You suddenly have more time in your day.

What do you want to accomplish in your life? Do you want to learn another language? Finish reading the Harry Potter books? Learn to cook? Build a birdhouse? Do you want to become a professional basketball player? Make some extra money? Visit France? Shake hands with Obama? Earn a promotion? Get a girlfriend? Start a band? Lose weight?

 

Well, guess what! Giving up porn can give you back the time that you’ve been missing. When I was using, I would find myself watching porn for hours at a time. Add it all up over a week and I had a part-time job watching porn. The only thing it paid me was shame and regret. Things were always getting done at last minute, I was often late for work or meeting with friends, and my apartment was always a mess.

 

Take porn out of the equation and suddenly I had a huge chunk of time that I could put toward all those things I wanted to accomplish. The laundry, dishes, and vacuuming all got done in a day. I was able to concentrate on improving myself instead of hurting myself. My homework and assignments were all getting handed-in on time. And just recently, I ended up with a 90% average in school. I also won a small scholarship for having the highest grades in my program. I added more to my writing and multimedia portfolio than I thought possible.

 

The best part is, all the new skills, goals and accomplishments suddenly become your focus throughout your day instead of videos of naked people. You have to hide your porn use, but your new job/skills/car/girlfriend/etc.—Those are all things you get to be proud of.

 

Which brings me to #2…

 

2.You start to like yourself. (So do other people.)

 

bigstock-Woman-hiding-under-the-happy-m-38643004This all ties into the new skills and hobbies you develop. The most amazing writer, David Wong, of Cracked.com said it best: “You can’t bullshit yourself into being happy.”

 

If by the end up the day, all you’ve accomplished is a few deposits into the spank bank and you look around to see that your place is still a disaster, what is there to feel happy about?  Well, that’s the problem.

 

Human beings generate happiness from accomplishment‑—even if just small accomplishments. Instead of letting that mess in your room accumulate, clean it up and you can smile and say: It’s so much nicer in here. Oh hey! That’s where my cat was hiding. From there, you can carry that effort into other things that make you happy.

 

Another important side effect from that is, other people will like you for it.

 

Once you give up your porn addiction, you suddenly become the type of person employers want to hire, the type of friend people want to have, and the type of guy that girls want to date. It’s only natural.

 

Productive members of society just get more respect and admiration from people because they’re just more fun to be around. You learn that you didn’t need to win a gold medal, have lots of money, or be a movie star for people to like you. You just had to accomplish a few small things to become the person that people wanted to be around. An effort at anything is usually enough to make you feel that much better at yourself.

 

3. Sex starts to feel real again.

As Gary Wilson ofyourbrainonporn.com says: “Sex is not the same thing as porn.” It’s the same way that playing Call of Duty on Xbox isn’t the same thing as going to war in Afghanistan.

 

When I was using, I would look forward to porn, but I would dread sex. Sex with my girlfriend felt like a chore. It wasn’t her fault. I would avoid sex because I had trained my brain to look for porn for arousal. So, when it came time to satisfy my girlfriend, it just emphasized the distance I had created between us.

 

It didn’t happen right away, but after a short time, I started to desire her touch again. I didn’t have to distance myself from intimacy or passion. Porn doesn’t have those things. Porn lets you dismiss it when you notice a small imperfection and move on to the next video. It creates a desire for an unrealistic sex life that would never, ever satisfy anyone. It is also something that I’d project onto myself. I’d think I’d have to be built, or hung to be desired in such a way.

 

Leaving it all behind made me start to notice my girlfriend again and love her for who she was. It made me stop objectifying other girls as well.

 

Have you noticed that girls don’t want to spend time around you? I sure did. They were put off by my crudeness and I don’t blame them.

 

4.You finally get to stop lying.

Living with a porn addiction was like having a double life. I constantly worried about being caught again by my girlfriend. I’d obsess about checking to make sure my history was erased and that my cookies were deleted. No matter how many times I would check, I still felt paranoid that might have left a bread crumb somewhere… and there would go my relationship. My girlfriend would confront me on things I couldn’t explain. She’d always expect something and I’d get mad at her for not trusting me, which was completely stupid because I wasn’t trustworthy.

 

When you live a lie for long enough, you start to convince yourself of it as well and the more lies you tell, you can’t bring yourself to tell the truth about anything. To overcome this, I had to come clean about my addiction and deceptions to my girlfriend

 

It was incredibly painful, but after a few months, I can definitely say that it was worth it. I started to tell the truth knowing that my girlfriend could have left me for it, but it turned out that all she ever really wanted was honesty.

 

Once I gave up porn, I didn’t have to hide anymore. If I made a mistake, I could admit to it. I didn’t have to pretend to be perfect. So, now when my girlfriend asks me what I did today, I can tell her the unedited version of what I really did. I no longer have to worry about hurting her, ever again.

 

5.You understand what it means to be in control.

We all know that addictions are not limited to porn or sex. The human mind is an amazing thing and it can turn almost anything into a drug. A&E has a show dedicated to people with addictions from everything from alcohol and heroin to food and shopping.

 

Once I dropped the porn from my daily routine, my brain still wanted the dopamine it was used to. I understand that it is incredibly easy to fall back into the same habit with a whole new fix. But when you apply what you learned from your addiction to other aspects of your life, it helps you make the best choices.

 

If there is one thing I’ve learned from this journey, it’s this: You’re an adult now and if you make bad choices, no one is going to stop you. When you’re a kid, your parents limited the time you’d spend watching TV, they’d make you eat your vegetable before dessert, you had to clean your bedroom if you wanted your allowance.

 

Well, you’re all grown up now. Are you going to eat McDonald’s everyday? Are you going to rack up your credit cards until you’re bankrupt? Are you going to drink until you throw up each night?

 

If you do, no one will stop you. They may ask say, “Hey Mike, you might want to cut back on the pizza.” But no one will physically stand in your way. If you keep calling Domino’s, they will keep delivering.

 

Porn is certainly an example of this. There is a chance that no one will know you’re addicted to it. The only one who can stand in your way is you. I learned to think of all the consequences. I learned to ask myself, do I need this much of this? Is this the best decision? How will this affect me tomorrow? I’m not saying that I obsess over it, but it’s up to me to be my own best friend. That’s what an adult does.

 

6. Things seem possible again.

When I was using porn. It was my crutch. Had a bad day = porn. Fight with a girlfriend = porn. Bored = porn.
dishes in the sinkThings just seemed too damn hard when I was on it. I’ve used the example of my messy apartment a few times, so here it is again. It’s hard to image what was really stopping me from just getting up and doing the dishes each day. Now it’s no surprise.

 

Add up all the previous points on this list and there was a guy who:

  1. Didn’t do anything with himself
  2. People didn’t want to be around him
  3. Was afraid of intimacy
  4. Was living a lie
  5. Had no self-control.

 

It’s no wonder life felt so difficult each day. I wanted an excuse to watch porn so I’d look for reasons to feel tired, stressed and overwhelmed.

 

Once I gave up porn, after a while, I gained the perspective that life really isn’t that bad. Yes, bad things do happen. Things can be tough, but when I’m looking for a crutch every time things don’t go my way, then I see how I’m missing out on the good things.

 

I’ve been without porn for six months and I now:

  1. Work hard at my job and school and have acquired many more useful skills that I’m proud of
  2. I’m the type of person people want to have around
  3. I love intimacy and sex with my girlfriend again
  4. I’m up front and honest
  5. I do my best to control myself and make the right decisions

 

bigstock-Man-Jumping-in-Sun-Rays-13239839All of these are things I wanted to accomplish, all things I wanted to become. I know I can do them. I don’t have to feel held up by anything because life doesn’t feel so heavy anymore. Life feels like it is worth living.

 

I truly believe that life will only continue to get better from here and it can be the same way for you. If you find yourself exhausted and overwhelmed as you just begin to quit your addiction, then know that this is what you have to look forward to.

 

Recognize that there will be slip ups, problems, and road blocks along the way, but you’re trading a bunch of pixels of naked people on a computer monitor for a real life with happiness, success and freedom. Never forget that.

 

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112 thoughts on “6 Things That Get Better After Quitting Porn

  1. Cool-Boy

    Hi,

    Thanks for answering some of my virtual question’s – questions that use to come in my head. Currently I am also experiencing all those things regarding Porn that you mentioned in this article and I think I am addicted. From last two years I am trying to quit watching porn but I am not able to do it whenever I stop watching porn I feel good for few days or week but suddenly I start feeling heavyness in my mind I feel like I am getting tensed minute by minute and to escape from this situation I choose porn. I am really worried why this is happening to me. I really have respect regarding females and I feel very ashamed because of Porn. Can you just give me an idea regarding how can I be consistent once I stop watching porn.

  2. Destefano

    All I ever read about is how bad pornography is for relationships. But what if you’re single and are not in a relationship? I am a successful medical professional, divorced 14 years, raised four kids: my oldest son a college graduate; youngest son an Afghanistan War veteran; two girls, one off to college, the other a senior in HS and my house is meticulously clean and tidy. I have time to do everything I need to and I don’t procrastinate or fail to accomplish any objectives. I have a happy and fulfilling life, thank you.

    I have not dated since my divorce although I have tried. I am not what you would consider desirable, women are not attracted to me. I never have been and I don’t pretend to be dateable. I am what I am, I am single and have no desire to waste my time or money trying to get a date , so what is so wrong with using porn? There are many men who find it hard to find dates, let alone sexual partners, so what are we supposed to do…nothing? You all act as though we/I can just “get a girlfriend.” It doesn’t work that way.

    I find the whole “porn damaging” mantra a bit offensive. Perhaps you should all stop judging those who use pornography as psychological outcasts, as if there is something wrong with us. If you’re in a relationship and porn is destroying it then by all means, stop watching porn. For me porn is all I’ve got so just leave it alone. Not everybody smokes cigarettes, likes to drive fast cars or go to the shooting range so does that mean cigarettes, muscle cars and firearms should no longer exist?

    If tried life without porn and you know what it was like…the same thing my life was usually but without any sexual stimulation. So, how is watching porn so harmful?

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Destafano, I hear you and, personally, I just found it very lonely sittin’ in a dark room masturbating after losing two marriages because of the complications arising from porn, masturbation, objectification, and sexualization. I realized that I couldn’t get enough of what would never satisfy me with the porn. Now, I’m not gonna win any “beauty contests” either but there IS someone for everyone. I was determined to find a partner, have a healthy attitude about sex, and experience true intimacy…which I have. I would encourage you to read my book, “Breaking the Cycle.” Your issues are addressed in what I’ve written. If you click on the GET STARTED FREE button on the sidebar on this page, and fill in your info, I’ll immediately send you the intro and first chapter of the book for free. See if it speaks to you, then (maybe) get the book. Also, Give me a call if you’d like. I’d be happy to talk to you about our mutual porn and self esteem issues and alternative behaviors.

      Best, George Collins, Director
      Compulsion Solutions
      (925) 932-0201

  3. samim

    In the websites” nofap.com and reddit.com” I saw the Idea of the founder of that website who say that masturbation decreases the man testestrone. But here you say that masturbation isn’t harmful. Why the ideas are different. In the nofap user so manny people want quite masturbation addiction. They founder of the website say men who dont masturbate for seven days, have 45 percent increas of testestrone. Which idea is true????

  4. sakhi

    There are milions of free porn websites that make it very easy to watch every type of porn. Dont you think it is a great bussiness. If you love people and have the since of loving human, why dont you make the addict books free and why there isn’t a free book for quiting porn? What should porn people do in asian countries? Today europeuropians so manny other countris produce porn movies. But how when when people watch and get addicted to them , and what should the poor people who cannot buy a book online or afford that like me do.?? If I am addicted and I cannot find a free book for quiting porn, then what should I do??? I live in Afghanistan and here are thousands addicts of porn with mybe at least 35 milion population. None of them know that porn is addictive. Here the knowledge is that much low that even the doctors don’t know porn is addictive. Not only in Afghanistan may be in all asian countries few groups of people may know about porn addiction. Since I am addicted to porn, I saw and searched in the all book stores in the city but I couldn’t find the porn addiction book here. Besides I cannot buy the book online either. I am very sad. I really see the pain of addiction and I dont know how to start. Besides I really fell sad for my country people too that none of the porn addicts know they are addicts…

  5. Will

    This page is exactly what I need to read today!!! When I first got sober from alcohol about , I scoured the internet for recovery oriented materials and halfway through this page I had a sudden realization that I should do the same with regards to my porn addiction! It takes positive action, and I know I cannot think my way into right action, I have to act my way into right thinking! So I’m sitting at Starbucks, reading porn addiction treatment websites instead of googling for porn. Thank you for creating this page/post/blog/forum!

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Will, Good to hear from you. In the right hand side bar at the top of this page, if you click on the “Get Started Free” button and then fill in your email address, within 30 seconds you’ll get the intro and 1st chapter of my book, “Breaking the Cycle.” It’s the best selling book on sex addiction. Give me a call after you read that and I’ll get you going in the right direction. Best, George Collins, Director 925 932 0201

  6. frank

    Guy you are the exact replica of my fucked up life……Today after reading this, am not going back again, because i have been touched by your article…..I have been wanting to stop with many failures till i saw this today….THANKS VERY MUCH…Am bookmarking this page

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Frank, Great that you resonated with the blog! Do you have my book, “Breaking the Cycle?” If not get it at amazon.com or at a Barnes and Noble store. YOU will love it and it works. If you’re in a relationship get “A Couple’s Guide to Sex Addiction” (by my wife and myself). Also a good one.
      Best, George

  7. Samim

    I quitted wathing porn few months ago but since then I couldn’t quite masturbation. befor quiting porn, I was watching porn and masturbating at the same time. but lately I didnt wath porn for two months but masturbated without porn 3 or 4 times a week.. just today I couldnt control myself and watched porn and masturbate with that two times.. now I am really sad 🙁 I feel regret so much… dose it really affect the progression of my quiting porn??? will I again face quting of porn withdrawals???

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Samim, I don’t know the particulars of your case but here is nothing wrong with “healthy masturbation.” There IS such a thing: thinking about an available appropriate partner. Porn brings shame. Appropriate thoughts do not. I’d be happy to talk, via Skype or phone with you further about this issue. Call me if you’d like to get some help with this. George 925-932-0201

  8. FreeMan

    Not that I ever considered myself an addict, and I still don’t in retrospect, I used porn to fill a niche that I was missing in my sex life . Several months ago, I met an amazing woman that has a similar interest in this niche and has all of the other qualities in a woman that any man would want as a life-partner. Once I made the realization that I was in love with my girlfriend and wanted to be in a committed relationship with her, I haven’t looked at porn since and have no desire to ever again. This was 5 months ago. With the right partner, it is a no-brainer to give up porn, mainly out of respect to your partner, but the sex with your partner is so much more amazing and intimate. Instead of fantasizing about countless images of objects of desire you will never meet, you instead fantasize about the woman that you love which makes times in the bedroom so much more pleasurable and exciting! Our sex is totally uninhibited and with every passing day we are discovering our likes and dislikes and what turns us on. So, give up the porn and if you have, stay the course…your brain does really re-wire when you are away from that junk.

    1. Wandering Soul

      It’s really refreshing to hear that there are still some men out there that give regard to their commitment so strongly. I wish you and your partner much success in you guys’ relationship, and hope that your bond only grows stronger with time.
      I do have a quick question though regarding your post. Would your view point still remain the same if say due to certain circumstances, you and your partner were limited to only having sex once a week or even biweekly? Although knowing, few months down the line within a year or so, you’d be moving in together and then you guys would be able to resume a normal healthy relationship in all aspects. In such a case, due to the lack of daily intimacy, would you then feel the need to resort to porn to fill the missing niche in your sex life? Or would you still rather fantasize about your partner instead since you’re committed for the long run?

      1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

        WS, Thanks for your question. Always advisable to stay sober. Porn is habit forming. The WRONG habit for me and my clients. Intimacy is the real prize. BE with the real person. In a pinch…..think about them if you feel the need to be “close” to your partner that way. It’s NOT about just gettin’ off. That’s recovery.

        Best, George

        1. Wandering Soul

          Thanks for the tip, George. I really appreciate it. The thing is though I don’t feel i fall under the category of a porn addict, or under that spectrum, for that matter. Like for me I would resort to it once in 2 weeks or a week even, but it never has impeded my daily routine or life. I’ve never spent hours at a time in one session. It was only when I would feel that I have no other outlet, since i wouldn’t be able to meet my gf freely. I’ve been with the same girl since I was 16….i would never choose porn over sex with her whenever we did have a chance to be intimate. Even today I would run a mile, if I could, to be with her, rather than resort to porn.
          That’s why I’m a tad confused. Can this in anyway mean I’m subconsciously, just making an excuse on my part to continue justifying why porn is ok for me? Because honestly it never has impeded my daily life. My grades, work, house chores, sex life has never been affected.
          I’m just trying to understand in my situation, analyzing it off Free Man’s previous post; even if when a man is not getting any, he can and should wean off porn if he’s in a truly committed relationship? Especially if he knows his gf would also highly appreciate and be very happy about such a decision. So then just as it was for him, should giving up porn be, or have been, a no-brainer for me as well?
          Keeping in mind I was in a long distance relationship initially for most of the years when my gf was away for school and then college. Then when she returned, it was only once a week or biweekly where I would be able to see her. We recently got engaged this October when we realized we ought to settle down, but still our circumstances keep us from seeing one another freely due to work and all, and since she had to travel away again recently. Nonetheless, I’d still like some input on the matter in my situation. We would occasionally partake in “phone sex” or sexing. But i’d find myself still resorting to porn at times. Would that be considered alarming?

          1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

            WS, Do you have my book, “Breaking the Cycle” or our book, “A Couples Guide to Sexual Addiction?” I believe that those would be a great investment for you. Your questions (and more) will be answered there. Let me know what you learn. Best, George

  9. bruce wayne

    i am a big porn addict.i masturbate even three times a day. everytime i take resolutions not to watch porn and the very next minute , i would find myself watching porn. i don’t know what to do. i have tried ways but all of them seem to be in vain.
    i am a student 17 years old and i have been watching porn since i was in 6th standard. i even had some sort of sex plays with my friends in the hostel. i dont know what to do. my studies are being seriously affected.
    help me out soon!!

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Bruce, Give me a call at Compulsion Solutions. I’ll be happy to help you. Also, get ahold of my book, “Breaking the Cycle.” You can get it on amazon.com or at Barnes and Noble stores in the US.
      Best George Collins, Director
      (925) 932 0201

  10. samim

    I don’t watch porn a lot, but whenever I watch porn I masturbate with it. I mean I do both watching porn and masturbtion at the same time. Since found the information about porn bad effects on people mind and that it is addictive, I am trying to quite it.. the problem is that recently I have masturbated without porn. I used to do them together. Now when I masturbate but not do that with porn, I really feel nervous and depressed after that. My body urges me that I wath porn then masturbate with that at the same time… I don’t know what to do. I think that is what I have trained my mind to do with my libido. How long will it take me to recover? Besides I cant stop masturbating either. Will it be possible to get free from porn without quiting masturbtion? ????

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Samim, Get a hold of my book, “Breaking the Cycle” if you want the answers to your questions. Either that or call/Skype me and I’ll be happy to help. Best, George Collins, Director, 925-932-0201

  11. Kev

    I am currently trying to quit. I’m 22 and I feel like I am already living a better life even with porn being cut for a few days. I have tried many things, but I would always just break. What I am doing right now is every time I feel the urge to watch porn, I would just immediately divert my attention away with a nostalgic episode of the Simpsons. It’s working great for the moment, and I just wanted to know if its healthy to masturbate without porn once in a while. Also even things like surfing Reddit and 9gag will often show erotic pictures or videos. Does viewing those count as porn? Thanks.

    1. Amer chaat

      Porn and masturbaio both will destroy your lust your sex drive sexuality..making out having sex with your wife is much more harmless than porn and masturbation..leave it and save your love your libido..porn kills love porn makes punisher violent towards woman..fight fucking devil

  12. Aries11

    every day i decide that from tomorrow i’ll not going to watch , but dont know why it happens that i just open it ,like not in my control and start using it , ihave given up now i think i cannot overcome the addiction.

  13. Michaeljohnny

    Sir I was addicted to watch porn but now I don’t feel it. But the problem that now occurs is that I am trying to find out people (through online apps) with whom I can perform sex. And I have strong urges towards performing sex.And I’m just 22. I don’t want to perform sex. I am gay and sex with men is forbidden.and the marriage with girl won’t help me either.So please sir suggest me something, so that I can suppress my urges to talk dirty with men and stop myself from desiring to have sex with them,, please help me out please sir

  14. sakhi

    I have stoped wathching porn since faced porn effects. I decided to stop porn two months agao. Before that time I had watch ed porn and masturbated at the same time three or four times a week. After quitting porn I still masturbate but without porn. The problem is that I still watch porn once or twice in 10 days. If I dont watch it even after ten days, is it still hard to quit?. I feel better than the days when I was watching porn alot. After quiting I also faced with difficulties Like feeling nervous, stressed, ashamed, muscle problems etc. Now I want ask that how to leave it forever . Please help me if you can. Please Write my answer in the comment if you can because I cant call.

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Yes, you can stop porn addiction. And, just like drugs and alcohol, you will have withdrawal symptoms (like feeling nervous, stressed, etc.) I’d encourage you to get (and work) my book, “Breaking the Cycle.” You can get the book at any Barnes and Noble store or online at amazon.com. Let me know how we can help further. We do phone sessions with men from all over the world with optimal results. Best, George

  15. COllin

    I’m a 23 year old male who was severely addicted to porn since a young age.

    I’ve decided to quit 3 years ago and I’ve had some relapses although had some very long streaks free from porn. The problem is that I have emotional issues and suppressed emotions and I use porn to run away from it.

    Every time I stop using porn, I have severe anger and rage. I also struggle with bad social paranoia and anxiety and I have trouble concentrating and thinking when there’s people around. I don’t know this happens but these symptoms do not go away ever unless I’m abusing porn. I generally felt emotionally numb after a porn session. I’d watch about 6 hours of porn at least, a day.

    I’ve had a relapse recently which lasted 3 weeks although I’ve managed to pull myself out once again (it’s been a few days).

    Do you have any tips on what the heck I should do about the anger and rage? It’s extremely unpleasant and I’m hoping it’ll go away soon with help and changes.

    Thanks for the article!

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Collin, Why not give me a call here at Compulsion Solutions? I’d be happy to talk to you about our programs and the anger that inhibits your healthy life. Your sex addiction and anger are interrelated. I know. I suffered from the same thing. Best, George (925) 932 0201

    2. Jared

      I know EXACTLY what your talking about Collin….. The porn is gone but the anger lurks.
      I am 18 years old and started porn when I was about 11.
      I am two weeks into no porn!!!!!!! I hope it holds.

      1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

        Jared, good to hear from you. Glad that you see the anger motivates this stuff. Get a hold of my book, “Breaking the Cycle.” It will really help you. I lived that life too. The book nails what you’re talking about. Best, George Collins, Director

  16. Adam

    First of all we’ve been married 20 years and our sex life has been awful. The wife likes it only one way and to me it’s so boring. I’ve tried every thing for buying books and explaining that sex would be a whole lot better doing different ways. But no she refuses so I just decided to watch porn. At least the actors are doing sex in different ways. She calls me a pervert and a sex freak. I just told her that if she can’t change then I won’t have sex with her, as you can imagine it turned into a yelling match. I don’t have sex with her and when in the mood I watch a good porn movie on line.

  17. Damian

    I am still at the beginning and it’s surprisingly difficult for me to cut out pornography.Sometimes i feel it is an irreversible situation that has been established to myself over the years of “innocent” curiosity.Your post gives a glimpse of hope to me!

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Like Nike says, “Just do it!” Get a copy of my book “Breaking the Cycle.” You can get a free copy of the intro and first chapter by clicking on the link at the end of this blog post. Let the tools land. DO the homework. Be more relentless than your addict. YOU are not your addict. George

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Get my book, “Breaking the Cycle” at Barnes and Noble book store or at amazon.com. Read it. It tells you how to QUIT….and not miss it. And, call us at Compulsion Solutions if you want support. We’ll help you quit. We know how. George

  18. sakhi

    We know porn can be an addiction but how about masturbation, is it also harmful? I have seen and viewed lots of websites about masturbation. But the Idea’s about are different. That is what really makes me confused. The website “Howtostopmasturbation.com” says that masturbation absolutely destroy your life and kills you, but othera like “Wikipedia, webmd, etc says that it is a natural habit and all people do it and say masturbation not only is normal but it also has benefits for the body. Please help me anyone and give the right answer on what to trust!

  19. Northern_Guy

    Yeah, this is the truth. Quitting porn is essential when it’s a routine and ritual and is resulting in intimacy issues within relationships. Okay, maybe the guy is single and just prefers porn to real life intimacy – maybe these guys exist and there may be no convincing them. Or maybe some guys use porn, but there is nary a complaint from significant others. BUT if you’re getting complaints like the ones posted by Neglectedandhurt here, and you STILL think porn use is okay for you, I gotta say: You’re in denial.

    For me, I think single or otherwise porn needs to go. I also know I have compulsive sexual behavior WITHOUT porn that involves masturbation – and some things that I do that are considered “not normal” or even dangerous.

    So for me there is more to it than porn addiction, for me it’s also about compulsive sexual behavior.

    I think some guys will cause trouble in their relationships even with “just masturbation” if they are masturbating compulsively. If your partner is available for intimacy and you’re turning that person down regularly to have “sex by yourself” (with or without porn) it’s a PROBLEM.

    That’s my opinion anyways.

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Dear Northern Guy, Great insights into yourself. And, it would really help if you could get a hold of my book, “Breaking the Cycle,” as well as our book “A Couple’s Guide to Sexual Addiction.” A lot of your difficult questions will be answered. Don’t hesitate to give us a call here at Compulsion Solutions. We’d be happy to talk to you and give you some thoughts.
      Best, George Collins, Director

  20. Neglectedandhurt

    My boyfriend and I have been together for only 8 months and have never had a good sex life. I have talked to him many times about what may be the issue, and at first he offered explanations such as the timing wasn’t right, and that he has never been a sexual person. Recently I discovered a post it note where he had written down a dozen names of porn stars. He told me it was before we met, and as much as I wanted to believe him, that pit in my stomach continued to nag. I finally checked his phone history, and discovered he’d been watching porn almost daily. He says its just a habit, and will stop but refuses counseling.

    When we got together, I shared a very painful part of my life where my marriage was destroyed by porn. He has rejected me numerous times, and I’d even asked him to get his T levels checked. This he agreed to do, but it has been several months and nothing, including sex with me.
    I feel that at this point, I’ve shared with him how I feel, I’ve asked for him to make some sort of effort to help resolve the issue, I’ve been patient, and I’ve been compassionate. But he isn’t doing anything to reassure me that this is still not an ongoing problem.
    He has also confided that he has had previous relationships break up over his lack of sexual intimacy, and although I don’t want to just give up on him too, I don’t know what else to do. I’m numb at this point, and my sexual desire for him has diminished greatly.

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Dear Neglected, My book, “Breaking the Cycle,” deals with these issues. It’s available at Barnes and Noble stores on at amazon.com (type in sex or porn addiction). You need to take action to heal this issue for you both. You could also read our other book, “A Couples Guide to Sexual Addiction.” There’s good help there too. It’s available at the same sources as “Breaking the Cycle.”

      Best, George Collins, Director

      1. Neglectedandhurt

        Thank you George,
        I am all for taking action and reading your book, but he just thinks he can flat out stop without doing anything else. I feel that he is in denial, and doesn’t realize that just saying he is going to stop restores my trust.

        1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

          Neglected, At least he has a positive attitude. Get both books. Have him read “Breaking the Cycle” and DO the homework. Also, get “The Couple’s Guide” and work on that together. If he needs more help, have him call me at Compulsion Solutions. Best, George

  21. alex h

    THANK YOU SO MUCH. THIS REALLY HELPED ME. THANK YOU FOR BEING ETHICAL AND SANE AND HELPING ME AND OTHERS. YOU SET SUCH A GOOD EXAMPLE. GOD BLESS MY FRIEND YOU ARE MAKING A DIFFERENCE

  22. Antony

    Hi ,thanks for this awesome article l have resolved to call it quits.l have watched porn several times l believe self control is the key to overcome this terrible addiction although not easy.God will help me each day to come free . May you be blessed.

  23. bwayne

    please help,I can’t quit porn and masturbation.I am just 17.I do yoga and lot of exercise still I can’t give it up.Help or I will die in hell.

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      I’d be happy to talk to you. Give me a call at Compulsion Solutions. 925-932-0201.
      You can, also, get a hold of my best selling book, “Breaking the Cycle.” It’s at Barnes and Noble bookstores and on amazon.com. You can get over this. Best, George

    2. Brian

      There is one thing that WILL help. When you get the crave again ask yourself this question “Will giving into the urge benefit me in the long run?” The answer is no. So training your mind to think logically will help yourself to control those urges a loooooot easier, trust me;)

      P.s. and a good way to prevent a crave startjng from looking at something that is really sexually attractive to you is to tell yourself “I accept that I am attracted to that”, I stead of fighting that sexual feeling. Why? Rebelling against sexualness will only make it come back even stronger. So next time when you come across that thing that sets sexual drives off, tell yourself that they are good looking instead of trying to fight it. It helps I promise!:)

      1. Regan

        Dead right, Brian. Repression didn’t work for me, either. Once I discovered that I could recognize and experience an urge to use, then let the urge go unfulfilled, it became so much easier. 51 days clean and counting!

  24. Warren

    I have been watching porn for maybe 7 years on and off… I feel like my mental health and respect for woman has been slowly getting worse, so recently I tried to give up but only lasted a few weeks. I find myself watching more and more sadistic videos and it really really freaks me out that I’m turned on by that shit. It’s just fucking horrible and I don’t want it to be part of my life anymore… After reading through the comments here it’s incredible to learn just how real this addiction is for people and how it can effect mental health so much. I’m going to try give up once and for all starting right fucking now!! Thanks for this article guys! 🙂

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Warren, So glad that you read the article and GET how horrible sex and porn addiction is. Give me a call (at Compulsion Solutions) if you need to talk. You can, also, get a lot of help from my book, “Breaking the Cycle.” It’s available at Barnes and Noble stores and on amazon.com. You CAN overcome this misery if you do the work. Best, George

  25. Darryl Haywood

    all I can say is WOW. I have been addicted to porn for many years… it has become a dangerous habit and i have tried to break free on several occasions. Learning that i am not alone in this adds to my determination. So many valuable experiences. So many success stories!! I will be purchasing this book tonite, i look forward to the day when i can say I used to be addicted! Now I am free.

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Great Darryl, Let me know how it goes. If you need some help give me a call. We do telephone sessions with men from all over the world. It helps to be accountable. Best, George Collins, Director

    2. paul

      I have tried many times to stop watching porn and have failed. But I’m confident this is the time, I’m finished with porn from now

  26. JDZ

    What if you don’t dread sex and use porn to get off when your gf cant. ex like whens shes out of town and /or isn’t up for the task. i mean we constantly have sex and she wants it almost every time i do . but is it wrong to use porn to get off rather than be tempted by another woman and cheat?..

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      JDZ, Using porn is edgy. Would you want your girl to look at videos of guys with big penis’ having sex with women? And, Watching porn is a form of cheating on your girl. You’re having sex with someone else. Those thoughts accumulate and often go to the next level….having actual sex with another. Porn is progressive. I get guys who edged up and up and up until they got in real trouble because of porn. Why not just think of of HER when she’s gone? Read my book, “Breaking the Cycle” if you want to understand how porn can damage men and their relationships. Best, George

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Adam, I thought that way for years.Lost two wives over that kind of thinking. Get my book, “Breaking the Cycle” if you can. It’s at Barnes and Noble stores or on amazon.com. Read it then give me a call at Compulsion Solutions. Love to talk about it with you. Best, George Collins, Director

  27. Kate

    I wish I knew some way to get my boyfriend to want to read this website and get some help. He has been doing porn for many years, like since he was a kid, and he’s in his 40s now. He thinks he is OK, that there is nothing wrong and he can just get over it by himself. He’s lied to me so many times and I’ve caught him so many times. I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t trust him and I really love him so much but don’t want to end things. Our relationship was good for a long time before I found out. He was hiding it from me, and everything is messed up. He doesn’t believe in any such thing as sex addiction and he thinks this doesn’t apply to him at all, only to other guys who have it worse, that his isn’t so bad.
    He says he has stopped for months now and he isn’t looking at anything or masturbating at all, but he’s not very interest in having sex, and the qulaity of it hasn’t gotten much better.

  28. Scott

    I read the article and had a few questions! I am going to stop watching pornography and I have read about something called flatlining. It is when your penis goes flaccid and almost dead for a long period of time after you stop watching porn. I have a girlfriend and am trying to stop my ED or Performance anxiety or whatever I have, but I do not want to flatline after not watching porn. Do you have any feedback on this? Thank you.

    1. Scott

      I forgot to mention that I have noticed myself not getting as hard as I used to for no apparent reason this week and my penis is flaccid more.

  29. Daniel

    George your book has greatly helped me in a time of need. This fall I finally told my wife I still have a problem with porn after having been caught several times. While working offshore I came across your book “Breaking the Cycle” on Amazon and downloaded it to my kindle. The first few nights dialogue alone was very scary but each day I felt more secure with myself. Now six months later I feel free of porn, I’ve had a few slips along the way, but now I feel more aware than ever and dialogue with myself as I feel the urge to masturbate and try telling my addict to turn that behavior into positive energy.

    I do feel more energy and am very excited to wake up each morning, however I deeply want to reconcile with my wife as she is the person who helped me greatly along the way. We have been separated since, and its difficult to get her to cooperate to even talk with me now or even see her and my son. This has been a great stress to me as we have no custody arrangements and I rarely get to see my two year old son and only hope he is safe. I hope she someday will come back to me but right now I am lost in the fog of hurt and shame I bestowed upon her and see no end to this antagonizing fear she has of me.

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Daniel, SO glad that the book helped you so much. Give me a call sometime (925-932-0201) and we can talk about some sort of strategy where we might be able to heal the wounds between you and your wife. I’m right here. Best, George

  30. Paul

    For the past 2 years, I have been experiencing ED in the sac, following years of porn addiction since a young age. I have been trying to quit watching porn back and forth. I have no trouble getting girlfriends, but when it comes to sex, it’s alot of work to keep them due to my lack of confidence and drive from instant gratification thanks to porn. It’s even had me going through questioning my sexuality, due to my lack of drive I had when I was in highschool. I’m in my mid 20s, and therefore do not believe this is how I have to feel at all. I also am super healthy physically, just not as much mentally in the meantime.

  31. Bek

    I was porn addicted for about ten years. I tried to stop it many times but all that I could do stay out from porn for week, not more. But something really put me out. I watched or better say listened several “Facialabuse” scenes. Many girls cried during a scenes, many of them showed traces of cutting (of themself), many of them were molested, some of them were drug addicted. And all of them did it only for the money. So there is one of that scenes – after another shitbag did his dirty job with that girl, operator came closer to the girl and said something like “what happened to you that moment, why did you cried ? did you fell into one of those bad moments of your life? She made “no nod” in response, he asked again – is it something private? she nodded. Operator again tried to find out what was wrong, but girl said something like “do you want to play my psychologist.” and he told “no. I honestly dont give a shit about it. I have a great life, and now I’ll go home to the people who love me. And where are you going?” The girl, almost crying answered “nowhere “.. You cant imagine how it looked. After that I decided to stop watch that dirty shit.
    Now I’m without porn for about 2 month. Sure it’s not a big term, but I hope there is no turning back.
    That’s my story. Good luck to you guys.

    1. Ganz

      I had a similar experience. I found my way to the f-a site and was absolutely horrified at myself and at what I was watching. I think I basically collapsed inward for a long time after that and wouldn’t go anywhere near a real girl out of fear of what I’d think of when with her. I’ve been mostly free of baseline behaviour for over a year now, both through George’s book and another online service – one thing I appreciate about George’s stuff is how it makes you realize your own emotional loneliness when engaging in that shit. I’m in an extremely healthy relationship now – I wouldn’t have been able to at this time last year.

      1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

        Ganz, So glad that the book was so helpful. You might want to also work with one of my guys and let him walk you through the book. When reading it alone, many have some “selective reading.” The addict self reads too and skips over some important stuff and doesn’t want to do the homework. Weird how that works. You could, also, be in one of our small telephone groups or do OUR online course…neulia.com. Let me know how it goes. How good CAN you stand it? George

  32. Joseph

    I am porn addicted for the last 16 years. most of the times I did it till I masturbate. the porn star I like most was Sunny Leone. I liked her because of her beautiful body structure. But after seeing her porn clips I felt tired and I did masturbation. I thought of stopping it. But I couldn’t. Now I realized that I can stop it. thanks for the support.

  33. David Smith

    Breaking a porn addiction is certainly a daily struggle. I cannot take it for granted that temptations will not return because they do. So often in front of my laptop alone in my apartment there seems to be another entity inside of me compelling me to type in those magic words in the URL, but as the days turn into weeks I can sense what I would jeapordize by giving into the impulse – a more integrated, centered, powerful personality & I just cannot succumb to the lie and impotence which is the iniquity of viewing pornography.

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      David, Feel free to give me a call here at Compulsion Solutions or read my book, “Breaking the Cycle.” It’s the best selling book for a reason. It works. I’d be happy to send you the intro and first chapter at no charge. George

  34. antonio

    i think this is the beginning of a healthier life, just by stumbling across this website the urges to view pornography are diminishing. It is just mind boggling the amount of pornographic videos that linger in the minds of people everywhere. with new hope comes new success.

  35. ken

    Hi i have been PMO free for 2 weeks now and No urges at all… But I get urges for sex But i can’t find a girl friend ..Im very attractive guy… but can’t seem to find a girl friend.. I can get one But Im not attracted to them.. So what do i do ?? I hate paying for sex.. do I just sex and PMO altogether ?? thanks please Help

  36. gustavo

    Great article.You how a burden feels lighter when you read stories of people who succesfully dealtwith it.I have tried many times to quit but believe you me,i aint doing that s**t again.Seriously,itsdestroying my life.I dont want to endanger my future relationships with something i can stop now.Its now or never.

  37. Jay

    I’ve stopped watching porn for quite a while now, it didn’t really like it anymore.
    I still masturbate a few times per week though, focusing on the sensations and what I feel.
    Sometimes if I don’t really “focus” on the feeling, it’s hard to stay fully aroused.
    Would it be better to stop masturbation for an extended period? Or keep focusing as much on the sensation of what I’m feeling and try to kepe myself aroused without orgasm?

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Jay, Tricky stuff. Give me a call here at Compulsion Solutions — 925-932-0201. I’d be happy to talk to you about the alternatives that we prescribe for our clients. Best, George

  38. Unown

    “As Gary Wilson ofyourbrainonporn.com says: ‘Sex is not the same thing as porn.’ It’s the same way that playing Call of Duty on Xbox isn’t the same thing as going to war in Afghanistan.”

    I love the analogy.

  39. David

    This is a great article. I’ve been reading up on a lot of information regarding nofap. I definitely feel a lot stronger, confident, and more importantly happy with who I am as a person. Although i still have challenges in edging, especially in the morning, I no longer feel the need to watch pornography.

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      David, Great start. Have a look at my book, if you haven’t already. It will give you a LOT of help in changing your mind….which is what you have to do. It’s called,”Breaking the Cycle” by George Collins. It’s at Barnes and Noble and amazon.com. Let me know how you like it. It WILL work. George

  40. garret

    DAY 14 of no porn…AHHHHHHHH I was so close to relapsing today until I read this. How do I stop the the constant reel pornos in my stashed in my brain…does that go away?

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Garret, Good to hear that you’re trying to fight this off. Are you reading my book, “Breaking the Cycle?” Give me a call if you need more help. We’re here. That’s what we do. And, we’re very good at it. George Collins, Director

  41. Carolyn

    I am sending this link to my partner, our whole relationship has been around lies about porn, we have 3 daughters and I love this man with everything I am. The whole relationship he had denied watching porn but I kept getting a gut feeling; then finding it,about 2 years later he finally confessed but promised he he’d stop because how it hurt me but last week I found it and he tried lying but yesterday said he is giving it up for good since I told him it’s me or the porn because I’ve tried everything I try to help me if we can’t have sex about 3 times a week plus sex 2-3 times a day I’m drained 3 daughters 6,2,10 months. I’m just tired, but I’m scared he has a problem with the porn but he says he doesn’t and that he is giving it up but I think he’s gonna slip but not tell me but I tell him I’m so proud of him; if he gets urges to let me know but I don’t think he will I don’t know what to say or do also I don’t want to push him or hurt him or anything. Any help from men that been there would be amazing!!! I’m not willing to lose this man to porn!! Thanks and so sorry for the long post.

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Carolyn, Good to hear from you. I’d be happy to talk to you and/or your husband about our programs, using my best selling book, “Breaking the Cycle” as well as life changing telephone counseling. Also, our book, “The Couples Guide to Sexual Addiction” could be KEY in creating the intimacy that you and your husband truly desire. I was a porn addict and I couldn’t do it alone. Accountability is huge in overcoming this dis-ease. We’re here and we know how to help you.

      Best, George Collins, Director

    2. Joe

      Hi CAROLYN,

      I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. I am married and was addicted to online porn for 10 years. I hid it from my wife for so long – but my behaviour gave me away. It was a hard, long road to recovery with many relapses ( which is normal with any addiction) but the key is for him to not only admit it but to get professional help- it’s like being an alchoholic – you can’t do it alone – even though you think you can – I know, I’ve said it to myself so many times. Porn destroys relationships, separates families and contrary to what people say does not contribute to better sex – it degrades those who watch it, perform it and are victims of porn addiction – you, the partner. Don’t ever believe the lie that those who are selfish say about porn- that it is harmless. More marriages and relationships are destroyed from porn addiction than anything else these days. PA is often leads to affiliars, deviant sexual behaviour and that often leads to rape. Thankfully, I only read about these consequences – I got help, read a lot on how to stop and have been PA free for over 6 years! Our marriage is stronger than ever and lien doesnt even come to my mind. ( I used to watch it for hours each day – I had one of the worst addictions – couldn’t go a day without it! I would get a “high” and the shakes as I anticipated watching a video or seeing a pornstar posing – I loved seeing naked women – not in a sadistic way- but in a natural way- which in itself is wrong. It would eventually lead me to the road of addictiin and shame.
      I felt horrible as a husband and a person – but I always told myself that I would break free from it- and with my wife’s support and professional help I am free. Your husband CAN do it too – but he has to WANT to! Tell him I did and I was REALLY addicted bad. Tell him that sex does get better and better with the woman he loves not the fake women who only serve one purpose. Love is the answer – if you love someone keep trying and get the professional help. PS – masturbation does not help in getting over PA – it fuels sexual fantasies that lead to relapses. M is selfish and self defeating as it makes a person a sex object in a person’s fantasy.

  42. Jt Wilson

    George,

    you certainly bring up some good points. My issue is as follows: I have been in a number of relationships where I have gotten my heartbroken. I have fallen in love only to be rejected by the woman I love and tossed to the side like an old newspaper. I have sought therapy for over 10 years to deal with my insecurities. It has not helped. I understand the drug that is porn. I understand that it is a vicious addictive cycle. The fact is, I still haven’t heard a convincing argument to stop watching porn. I can masturbate to the most beautiful women(many of which I could not get in real life) with the most perfect bodies. The dopamine rush is a feeling like no other. Many women that I have had sex with in the past appeared to have little interest in pleasing me sexually. Their desire was their own personal satisfaction. I have left these relationships unsatisfied and heartbroken. I try to look at it from a logical stand point.

    Girlfriend = heart broke, depression, total lack of control of the situation

    Porn = safe from heart break, no rejection, dopamine release at my becon call, I can let women know that they are not a requirement for my happiness

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      JT, I hear you AND that was MY life too, until I woke up and realized that I was living in reaction to my negative sexual history. Yeah, it wasn’t easy but, by doing what I needed to do, I was able to stop the porn madness, increase my self esteem, and experience the beauty of connected intimacy. I GET that you’re masturbating TO all those beautiful women. But, when you’re done, nobody’s there. I’ve been there and done that. But, I encourage you to get some professional help (I did) and allow yourself the absolute pleasure of a real woman who can really BE with you….all the way. That makes porn obsolete…..really. Have you read my book, “Breaking the Cycle?” Email me at george@compulsionsolutions.com and I’ll send you the intro and first chapter for free. We work with men, via Skype and phone, from all over the world regarding these issues. Call if you feel like talking. Best, George

  43. Mike

    Thank you so much for this post. It gives me hope when I am trying to get through a tough day. This really is an addiction on many levels. I have tried other drugs and have been drinking for years and nothing has compared to the fight it takes to quit watching porn (even masturbation for that matter). I find it happens when I am stressed out. So I’m slowly changing things that stress me out into positive activities. Thanks again!

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Hi Mike, So glad to hear you’re making positive changes. That’s terrific. Since this article was helpful, you might also want to check out my book, “Breaking the Cycle.” It’s available on amazon.com (type in sex addiction or porn addiction in the Amazon search bar). It’s right at the top. You can also get it at Barnes and Noble stores (in the addiction section). Work it. Call us if you experience “selective reading.” That’s where the “addict” is reading too and skips over stuff and doesn’t want “you” to do the homework. If that happens, give us a call and we’ll guide (push) you through in weekly phone sessions. It works if you work it. We’re right here. Best, George

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      So glad to help. Don’t hesitate to call us here at Compulsion Solutions for any help that you need. It seems as though we’re talking about you because we’ve lived that life. We’ve just chosen, like you, a better way. Best, George

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Phil, I hear you AND read my book, “Breaking the Cycle,” if you haven’t already. Let me know what you think.
      Best to you, George

  44. snar

    It is really true , when I left watching porn I started to feel more stronger and have more time to do my job and enjoy my life 🙂 . When I was using porn , all that bad videos were living with me anywhere ! Thanks for this article

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Great to get your comment. If you need further help, make sure to get a hold of or books, “Breaking the Cycle” and “The Couple’s Guide to Sexual Addiction” (if you’re partnered). They work. We do individual phone counseling with folks from all over the world. We also have an online course that might interest you. It’s called neulia.com. Check it out. Best to you, George

  45. Niro S. Hulkeñbérğ

    Bro, just thanks man. I am now living the life I want. I have got this wonderful job, beautiful and caring wife who is much better than porn star & a lovely life. once again, thnx bro

  46. gnj

    Why would i want to replace porn with more healthy habits when i like instant gratification and dont think sex is very important in a relationship(well, at least my other half is not openly complaining yet)? More often than not “healthy” things are tasteless, boring stuff.

  47. jugalraj

    100% true what you have said. Great article. Sadly not everyone is aware. It should definetely be part of sex education so youngsters do not fall prey to sex.

    I have already started my journey of noporn and deleted almost 35 GB of porn content.

    Thanks Again

  48. Mikey See

    This is such a true post. I have stopped watching porn for the last 3 months and I can tell you it’s a better life. I’m in front of a computer many hours a day in the privacy of my own home and have easy access but choose not to view it because I feel so much better spiritually, emotionally etc.. without it. I didn’t know that I had a problem until I viewed information about the negative impacts of porn use on the person and I said to myself I fit into this mold. Porn use puts you in an emotional prison and if you keep watching it you will become the dishwasher in that prison.

  49. ahmed akram

    i also experienced the same feeling and i think now i am much better than the previous time now i am physically fit and healthy my concentration is perfectly good now i can invest my time

  50. RICK

    Thanks, what you say is true, one can not live a false life watching pornography because it is like living in a fantasy world without limits, that ends up making you slave and leaving aside all your progress in life or your goals, even your daily goals as simple as exercise or paint the fence, and it’s sad when you want to have sex discover you’ve lived in a world of lies.

  51. Cody N

    Very true post. My marriage has seen some tough times. I did this constantly, lying to my partner, hiding, and doing it again. But stick it out and get over this, and your life will be much better, trust me.

  52. Brian Parks

    Great motivating post. Thanks for sharing your story, Ian.

    I also experienced the same benefits after recovering.

    I might also add that after overcoming my addiction, I physically felt 10x better. Part of it is because I replaced my porn habit with other, more positive healthy habits, but I think there’s also a physical aspect to the guilt and shame of having an addiction that doesn’t get talked about much. 6 months after recovering, I felt more energetic and much less physical stress.

    1. Mikey See

      Keep it up bro. As the hours days and weeks go by without porn you are becoming stronger and stronger and people of both sexes will start to notice the new you.

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