Men, women, and mental health professionals who have come to a crossroads regarding porn and/or sex addiction often contact me. Despite diligently applying themselves to weekly talk sessions or couples therapy, a sex or porn addict will not progress until the root cause of their addiction is addressed. Without the right treatment, the addict will stall out indefinitely, which is incredibly frustrating to both themselves and their partner.
Sometimes it takes time to discover that there is an addiction lurking behind other problems, but once the facts come to light, it’s important to get the right kind of treatment. Much like one wouldn’t expect a couple’s therapist to help someone through a heroin detox, they also shouldn’t be expected to help someone overcome a powerful addiction to sex or pornography. This is where our unique practice of specialized addiction therapy comes in.
How and Why Our Therapy Works
We work with people that others might not want to take on. We work with those who may be impeding their own progress in therapy by not addressing the shame, anger, resentment, and self-doubt attached to their addiction.
We give our clients a clear plan of action. We tell them exactly what to do and how to do it. We encourage daily check-ins and phone calls. When someone calls Neulia, by Compulsion Solutions, he or she doesn’t get a receptionist, but a professional who understands sex addiction and works with sex addicts every day.
We help people who have hit their rock-bottom moment or fear that they’re about to act out in a way that might harm themselves or others. We can offer help immediately, right in that crisis moment. From that point on, we continue working together until they are able to break free from their addiction and lead a better life.
Using a combination of cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness training, and elements of psychosynthesis, we introduce our clients to concepts such as “you are not your addiction,” and “you are not your mind.” We teach them to engage in meaningful dialogue with their inner addict, allowing them to reassert control in a very real way. We give them coping skills for when they feel triggered, and daily mindfulness exercises they can do to keep them moving forward.
How We Are Different
I suspect the biggest reason for our success is that we are addicts for addicts. We’ve “been there and done that,” as the saying goes. I, myself, and each of the counselors in our practice have walked the path of addiction ourselves. We’ve worked through our own addictions and learned the skills necessary to overcome them. As I often tell my clients, “Anything you’ve thought of or done, I’ve also thought of or done, or at least something very similar.”
We treat our clients right where they are because we think it’s important to treat them in the environment where they’re acting out. If we were to remove them from that environment, we also remove the opportunity to directly address the triggers they’re encountering every day.
What we do is take a deep dive into the backgrounds and daily lives of the clients we work with, and begin looking for past experiences and trauma that got them to where they are. It is a deeply personal and individualized experience, with plenty of intense emotions and hard work on the part of the addict. We are here to assist in situations requiring highly specialized knowledge of a very specific addictive behavior to help each and every one of our clients on their journey to true freedom.