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I resolved to quit porn in 2023, but I’m already failing
If you're reading this, you may have made the resolution to quit watching porn in 2023, but you're already struggling to keep that promise to yourself. You're not alone. Porn addiction is a real and growing problem, and it can be incredibly difficult to break free from. But it's not impossible. First, it's important to […]
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Taking Ownership of Your Life
If you're struggling with pornography addiction, it's time to get the help and support you need. Our team at Neulia Compulsion Solutions can provide you with the resources and therapy you need to overcome your addiction and regain control of your life. Don't let porn addiction keep you from living the life you deserve — […]
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Porn Addiction is Turning Your Life into a Bad Soap Opera…And You’re the Main Character
Theodore Roosevelt once said, “If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn't sit for a month.” When I look back at my life when I was acting out, when my porn addiction was totally out of control, my life was a soap opera and I was […]
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PORN ADDICTION — THE COST DOESN’T EQUAL THE BENEFIT
When you’re a porn addict or a sex addict in the throes of feeling an urge to act out, you can lose sight of something very important — the cost. Your addiction might say to you, “Remember how good you feel when you act out? I can help you feel great. I can help you […]
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Sex and Porn Addiction Among Women
Sex or viewing porn can relieve stress and help you escape from reality. However, it’s only temporary relief...and it can take over your life if it becomes a repetitive cycle. If this cycle is something that’s becoming unconstructive or something you need to break free from, we can help. Women Develop Porn Addiction too There […]
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5 Signs A Little Bit of Porn Has Become a Big Problem
All guys do it, right? It doesn't mean you have a problem. It's not an addiction, is it? Why can't I watch a little porn? The problem for some men is that sex is an addictive substance, similar to alcohol and drugs. Think of it in terms of social drinkers vs. alcoholics: one can […]
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6 Things That Get Better After Quitting Porn
You don't have to be a slave to porn. Below (from one of our amazing clients) are 6 things in your life that get better after you quit porn. You can do it too.Six months ago, my entire day revolved around porn. It was ruining my relationship. It was getting in the way of my […]
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Can “Looking” be a Symptom of Sex Addiction?
Can “looking” or ogling be a symptom of your sex compulsion? Does looking trigger you into deep fantasy leading to compulsive sexual thoughts that won’t stop until you act out? Often times “ogling” is a step in the wrong direction for sex addicts, leading to other unhealthy sexual behavior. It hurts spouses too - the […]
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Dealing with Withdrawal Symptoms of Sex Addiction
Attempting to stop your sexual compulsion behavior requires a non-simple truth: the need to become comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. Once you have acknowledged you need sex addiction help, and made the decision to get help, you need to prepare yourself for a period of dealing with the withdrawal symptoms of sex addictions. Like any drug […]
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Alone vs. Lonely
When working with my male clients who struggle with compulsive sexual behavior, one of the common denominators in the reasons they act out is being alone. Particularly if the behavior is pornography addiction where privacy represents one of the conditions for being able to peruse porn in the first place. A recent client on a […]
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Sex & Love Addiction from a Buddhist Perspective
In the land of the strange but true, as a former Tibetan Buddhist nun I fell in love with and married a man who counsels sex addicts and who is a recovering sex addict himself. Joining him in his counseling practice has allowed me a look into the lives of many people who have struggled […]
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How To Tell If You're Addicted To Sex
In its basic and natural form (if there has not been physical or emotional damage along the way) human sexual contact feels good, touching feels good, having an orgasm feels good. This is normal and wonderful. Your innate desire for sex and sexual pleasure is not an enemy. Your natural sexual impulse can guide you […]
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Sex Addiction: Let’s Break the Stigma
When you break your arm, you go to the hospital and get it treated. There is no shame or hesitation involved. You experience the injury/pain and go to get it treated accordingly; no one blinks an eye. When it comes to psychological disorders, however, the story is entirely different. When you have depression, anxiety, sex […]
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Choosing Connection Over Performance
Men, young and old, who are porn addicts, often experience erectile dysfunction (ED) and related sexual performance anxiety. Although research on porn-induced ED is mixed, I can tell you firsthand that many of my clients, individuals and couples alike, are negatively impacted. It can be difficult to measure the far-reaching effects of viewing too much […]
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We Need to Talk About Your Ego Situation
When speaking casually, the term “ego” gets thrown around mostly in a negative way. “Wow, the ego on that guy,” or “His ego will never let him admit failure,” etc. While these statements might technically be using the term ego correctly, it does tend to make people associate the ego with self-aggrandizing or pomposity. That’s […]
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What Are the Factors Leading to a Sex Addiction?
Obviously, sexual addictions aren't something you’re born with. Rather, they're a condition that develope over time. Most people can go about their lives, form relationships, have sex, even look at porn occasionally, and not necessarily become addicted. Remember, when we say addicted, we mean that the sexual compulsion to act out has literally ruined a […]
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Filling the Gaps in Porn and Sex Addiction Treatment
I want to start off by saying that in battling my own addiction to porn, I was profoundly helped by both traditional talk therapy and a 12-step program. I learned a lot from each, and I often hear from others who have been greatly helped by these approaches as well. However, for me, there were […]
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Why Specialized Addiction Therapy is Necessary
Men, women, and mental health professionals who have come to a crossroads regarding porn and/or sex addiction often contact me. Despite diligently applying themselves to weekly talk sessions or couples therapy, a sex or porn addict will not progress until the root cause of their addiction is addressed. Without the right treatment, the addict will […]
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Once An Addict, Always An Addict?
Anyone who has struggled with addiction or continues to struggle likely has heard the phrase, “once an addict, always an addict.” You may have a love and hate relationship with that saying. Many see it as a label of hopelessness, sort of a lifelong branding while others may look at it as just a warning…a […]
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Objectification Hurts Everyone
I ran across an article at Psychology Today, which spoke about the sexualization of women and girls, and how damaging it is not only to women, but also to men and boys. I was glad to see this article referencing some scientific studies that were conducted, because frankly, this is an issue, which needs more […]
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