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Dear PornDoc—Journaling, Mindfulness, & Disclosure

Dear PornDoc, I am currently in treatment for pornography addiction. My therapist wants me to journal a lot. My thinking is that this brings up feelings of wanting to act out which seems counterproductive to me. I’d like your thoughts on the importance of writing. First of all, good for you for seeking help. It’s […]

Walking On The Edge

When working with my clients in sex addiction recovery, the most common feedback I receive concerns their behavior that just teeters back and forth around their addiction. I refer to this as “edging.” Perhaps they are not looking directly at online pornography or not quite yet acting out sexually with another person…but, they are dangerously […]

Setting Up Your Wellness Practice

People who struggle with compulsive sexual behavior (or any addiction for that matter) who are looking to break free from their addictions must realize that sex addiction recovery involves more than just quitting the behavior. They must realize that many times sex and porn are symptoms of a larger problem and that maintaining sobriety is […]

Feelings Are NOT Facts

We often talk to our clients in sex addiction recovery about investigating the feelings underneath the sexual acting out behavior. Something must be driving the need to act out, right? Often these are called triggers — thoughts, feelings, and situations that push us to seek out an escape via compulsive sexual behavior. We come to […]

Porn Doc Is In ... Dealing With Sexual Scenes on TV

Dear PornDoc, Q: I’m a married man in recovery from sexual addiction and pornography. I’ve noticed that since I’ve been in treatment, I get very uncomfortable watching any kind of nudity in movies and TV programs with my wife. I sort of sit there and hold my breath and hope she doesn’t get upset. How […]

Replace That Sexually Compulsive Behavior!

Think of your compulsive sexual behavior as energy. More specifically, think of it as water…water that is used to flowing in both a certain direction and at a steady pace. Attempting to corral or control the water (i.e. building a wall) is often futile unless you have both a plan and resources. If you have […]

An Unwelcome Guest?

Imagine you’re at home and you get a knock at your front door. You’re not expecting anyone, so you’re dubious. You take a clandestine peek to see who it is… hopefully without them seeing you. Now imagine that your “guest” is someone you really don't want to talk to or deal with in any way. […]

Inside Out — Talking To Your Addict

If you have children, or you’re a child at heart, maybe you’ve seen the movie, Inside Out — an animated film that cleverly depicts the emotions inside a child’s mind as a cast of characters trying to work together — or not — to help their host cope with her outside world. Our minds can […]

Wired To Worry

Therapists often like to use the onion metaphor for depicting feelings as layers that need to be peeled back to expose the truth…or in California, we opt for the artichoke as we eventually expose the heart! If you are in need of sex addiction help, perhaps you too are looking for the root causes. “What […]

What’s Your Travel Plan?

If you are someone who struggles with a pornography addiction, sex addiction, or both, traveling on your own can be particularly worrisome. In order to act out sexually, you essentially need place and space, both are conveniently offered when you are in your hotel room at night. The majority of my clients in sex addiction […]

Porn Doc Is In ... Straight Guy Looking At Gay Porn?

Dear PornDoc, Q: I have been looking at online porn since I was a young teen. I am now 22 (male) and am growing more and more concerned at what I am looking at. I’m embarrassed to admit it but I am now looking at extreme fetish sites, transsexuals, and gay porn…and I consider myself […]

I’m Getting Better — Why Isn't My Relationship?

Men who come to see us for sex addiction recovery often expect a sort of linear course for regaining their lives. “I'll put six solid months into sex addiction therapy, then my wife will trust me again, our marriage will be back to where it was, and I'll never do this again.” Unfortunately, only our […]

Porn In The Classroom?

Think back to the time when you first started using pornography. How old were you? What got you started? Perhaps it was finding magazines in your own home or at a friend or family member’s home? If you’re younger, maybe it was accidentally finding “stuff” online during a web search. Regardless of your age or […]

Child Porn & Sex or Porn Addiction

You see it in the news more and more. People (almost exclusively men) caught and arrested for viewing, collecting, and/or sharing child pornography movies and images. How much is this happening? One of the toughest parts of my practice is helping men who are drawn to look at child porn. The complexity in these cases […]

3 Questions To Reveal Your Ritual of Sex Addiction

Recently I attended a weekend seminar and was reminded of how quickly and easily people, me included, set up routines. From the opening moment we each entered the meeting space, each of us carved out our own territory—where we sat, where we ate, where we broke to return calls, etc. This exact routine was repeated […]

The Addict Zone — Learning Your "Secret" Formula

Many of our clients in sex addiction recovery describe that they feel as though they are on “auto-pilot” when they act out sexually. One moment they feel fine and the next they are online surfing porn sites. It can feel that overpowering and out of control. But when you begin to really pay attention to […]

The Porn Doc Is In! Answers To Your Questions About Porn Addiction—6th Edition

Porn addiction and sex addiction experts from Compulsion Solutions answer your most pressing questions. We’ll answer your question too… e-mail Porn Doc. Dear Porn Doc: My wife wants to watch porn with me. Perfect, right? Why I am so turned off by this? We tried once or twice but I was so petrified and closed off. I am so […]

Sex Addiction & Porn Addiction: You’re Only As Sick As Your Secrets

Lance Armstrong has now finally admitted to his longtime use of performance enhancing drugs. As this story unfolds on the national stage, it can serve as a reminder particularly to those of us who struggle with sex and porn addiction, of the personal and collateral damage that unravels once lies are exposed. If you are […]

The Porn Doc Is In! Answers To Your Questions About Porn Addiction—5th Edition

Porn addiction and sex addiction experts from Compulsion Solutions answer your most pressing questions. We’ll answer your question too… e-mail Porn Doc. Dear Porn Doc: The Christmas season brings up a lot of mixed emotions for me. As a person who struggles with sex addiction, I find myself caught between creating new traditions with my wife and kids and […]

The Porn Doc Is In! Answers To Your Questions About Porn Addiction

Porn addiction and sex addiction experts from Compulsion Solutions answer your most pressing questions. We’ll answer your question too… e-mail Porn Doc. Dear Porn Doc: I’m a 22-year-old college student. I look at a lot of online pornography and have been since I was about 13. I’m concerned about my ability to perform with a real person. Technically I'm […]

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