The Sex Addiction Debate: Yes, It’s Real

In the continuing wake of the Anthony Weiner scandal, many voices are chiming in with their own takes on the matter of his sex addiction. Among them is a growing voice of doubt as to whether or not sex addiction even exists. This seems to happen every time some high profile person like Weiner goes into rehab for his issues, …

Celebrity Addiction Rehab: Not The Only Way To Do It

You may have read some news stories about celebrities checking into exclusive rehab centers to work on their sex addiction or porn addiction.  Certainly, this is fine. I’m sure that despite the media’s focus on things like horseback riding and croquet at some of these exclusive treatment centers, there actually is a lot of intense therapy happening inside the facility. …

Here’s Why The Porn Industry Went After Ken Bone

If you watched the second Presidential Debate, you probably noticed a man in a red sweater by the name of Ken Bone. He is a worker at a coal manufacturing plant, and he had a question about energy conservation. His pleasant manner immediately endeared him to audiences all across the country, and almost as soon as the debates were over, …

When Porn Victimizes Women – The TSA Scandal

Recently, there was a story in the news about a TSA agent who was suspended from his job after he was observed using his phone to take up-skirt videos of unsuspecting women in the airport where he worked. After his supervisors were tipped off to this behavior, they observed him secretly recording women as he stood behind and beneath them …

Anthony Weiner: Sex Addiction Needs More than Talk Therapy

  Anthony Weiner has found himself back in the spotlight in recent days, thanks to yet another sexting scandal. A memory refresher: Anthony Weiner was a congressman who first found himself in trouble back in 2011, when a picture of a man in his underwear was sent out from his Twitter account. After a few days of evading the press, …

Here’s Why Ozzy Needs Such Intense Sex Addiction Therapy

  On a recent episode of The Talk, Sharon Osbourne spoke openly about her husband Ozzy’s sex addiction. Not only did she confirm that he is grappling with sexually compulsive behavior, but she mentioned an intense rehab therapy regimen he is following. During his tours, he will be seeing therapists in an outpatient capacity for three months, but when his …

Kids Watching Porn? It Happens More Than You Think

Lately, there have been a few articles published warning that erectile dysfunction meds like Viagra are being prescribed to younger men. When this pill first debuted, everyone assumed it was to help men of a certain age continue to enjoy a sex life. They probably didn’t anticipate young people in their early 20s using it too.   Don’t be misled. …

What Tiger Woods Can Show Us About Sex Addiction: It Begins in Childhood

Recently, Josh Feinstein wrote a column for CBS Sports opining that Tiger Woods’ father ruined his life. Even though I don’t regularly follow golf, this caught my attention, because I completely agree with Josh’s assessment of the situation. Tiger Woods is a publicly visible, but still tragic reminder that role modeling is how we learn to live our own lives. …

Porn Addiction Is A Progressive Disorder (But You Can Stop Before It’s Too Late)

Recently there was some truly troubling news coming out of New Jersey. A man was arrested and charged with two counts of Endangering the Welfare of a Child, after it was discovered that content from his live-streaming porn service involved children. To put that in plain English, the guy was putting 14-year-olds in webcam shows, and people – potentially lots …

Terry Crews: If He Can Admit His Porn Addictions, So Can You!

One of the biggest foes faced by sufferers of porn addiction is the media. The very idea that someone could be addicted to porn is easily and often dismissed in news stories, op-eds, and even joking tweets. This kind of rhetoric is damaging in many ways, not the least of which being that it prevents addicts from coming forward and …

How Dangerous Is Your Porn Addiction?

Addiction can kill. Anyone who has ever watched a family member or friend succumbs to alcoholism, or overdose on drugs can tell you that. Yet, when talking about porn addiction, many people see it as less serious and less deadly. Certainly, there is more inherent risk in sharing needles than there is in opening a porn website in the privacy …

Abuse In The Porn Industry Can Cause Troubling Behavior In Addicts

Allegations of sexual assault against male porn star “James Deen” have surfaced recently, after a number of female actresses have come forward with stories of being brutalized. After reading the stories these women told, I was wondering how on earth such brutality could ever be okay. If you hit a woman with a closed fist, or hurt her during sex …

Partner to a Sex Addict? It’s NOT Your Fault (No Matter What Michelle Duggar Says)

Michelle Duggar, the matriarch of “19 Kids and Counting” fame recently released a statement about her son that left many people scratching their heads. We can never know what someone is truly thinking, but her statement appears to be blaming her daughter-in-law for the sex and porn addiction struggles her son Josh is currently going through. While I don’t get …

Afraid Your Partner Is Cheating On You? A New Website Sure Hopes You Are…

In the wake of the Ashley Madison hack, it seems like the act of spying on your partner’s online activities has become a national pastime. That idea is certainly supported by the release of a new online search engine called “Instant Checkmate.” This service claims to have the ability to search not only secret online accounts for dating or porn …

Your Porn Addiction Secret

When you’re the only one who knows about your porn addiction, it’s a scary and lonely place. You become filled with shame, self-doubt, criticism and anger. You respond to these negative feelings by trying to soothe yourself with more porn, which of course only starts those feelings up again in a vicious cycle. In fact, you have to remain isolated …

Habits, Patterns, And Addictions

How we perceive and experience the world around us is based on patterns. Many patterns in your world experience are out of our control, such as the planets orbiting the sun. You can’t change those patterns. Other patterns are automatic and unconscious repetitions of behavior that occur inside what you think of as your “self.” It’s those patterns that can …

Porn: 2 Sides To The Camera

Recently, a documentary premiered on Netflix called Hot Girls Wanted.  While this is certainly not the first of its kind, it’s still an enlightening and eye-opening look at the realities of the porn industry. Most notably, it gives a behind-the-scenes look at what happens to the young women who choose to get involved in pornography as soon as they turn 18. …

Opening The Door To Resistance

Imagine walking up to the edge of a cliff with a thousand foot drop. You may feel some resistance to getting close to the edge. Why? You’re protecting yourself from danger. Similarly, in counseling, resistance is a way you protect yourself from perceived danger. It’s an instinct. It’s automatic. It’s a way of trying to avoid the “danger” of pain. …