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George’s Story: I Stopped My Porn Addiction, And You Can Too

It took losing two wives before I finally admitted to myself that my use of porn was a serious problem. I finally realized I that porn and masturbation was running my life. That’s when I took the very big step (for me at the time) of calling a therapist to help me. How did […]

What Tiger Woods Can Show Us About Sex Addiction: It Begins in Childhood

Recently, Josh Feinstein wrote a column for CBS Sports opining that Tiger Woods' father ruined his life. Even though I don't regularly follow golf, this caught my attention, because I completely agree with Josh's assessment of the situation. Tiger Woods is a publicly visible, but still tragic reminder that role modeling is how we learn […]

Porn Addiction Is A Progressive Disorder (But You Can Stop Before It's Too Late)

Recently, there was some truly troubling news out of New Jersey. A man was arrested and charged with two counts of Endangering the Welfare of a Child after it was discovered that content from his live-streaming porn service involved children. To put that in plain English, the guy was putting 14-year-olds in webcam shows, and […]

Dating Apps: Helping Relationships or Normalizing Sex Addiction?

It can be difficult to meet people sometimes. Our multitasking culture demands more of our time than ever before, and that means longer workdays, less vacation, and far fewer opportunities to bump into “the one.” So, in this regard dating apps seem inevitable. If we can't be out in the real world looking for relationships, […]

Porn Guilt — The Gift That Keeps On Giving

Guilt about your porn addiction, your acting out sexually, is the gift that keeps on giving and giving and giving — until you’re in the emotional gutter and your self-esteem is toast. Guilt. You feel "less than." Guilt. You isolate. You forget about your friends. You are sure that they must be better off than […]

Abuse In The Porn Industry Can Cause Troubling Behavior In Addicts

Allegations of sexual assault against male porn star “James Deen” have surfaced recently, after a number of female actresses have come forward with stories of being brutalized. After reading the stories these women told, I was wondering how on earth such brutality could ever be okay. If you hit a woman with a closed fist, […]

How To Tell If You're Addicted To Sex

In its basic and natural form (if there has not been physical or emotional damage along the way) human sexual contact feels good, touching feels good, having an orgasm feels good. This is normal and wonderful. Your innate desire for sex and sexual pleasure is not an enemy. Your natural sexual impulse can guide you […]

Sex Addiction: Let’s Break the Stigma

When you break your arm, you go to the hospital and get it treated. There is no shame or hesitation involved. You experience the injury/pain and go to get it treated accordingly; no one blinks an eye. When it comes to psychological disorders, however, the story is entirely different. When you have depression, anxiety, sex […]

How “Believing Your Own Press” Can Get You in Trouble With Addiction

Recently, a story broke about a YouTube star in his 20s named Austin Jones who’s being sent to jail for 10 years. Why? Because he requested sexually explicit videos of underage girls. He did this numerous times, and the content of these videos as described in the press is terrible. It's easy enough to look […]

A Walk in the Shoes of Someone With a Sex Addiction

Hollywood and the media have given us a certain idea of what a sex addict and sexual compulsions looks like. Maybe they’re multi-millionaire actors and actresses constantly taking home other multi-millionaire actors and actresses. Perhaps sex addiction even seems a little fun. Why not surround yourself with rich beautiful people all the time? Then, all […]

What the Holidays Made Me Do: An Addict's Guide to Navigating December

Every year around the holidays, people who are stressed, upset, lonely, angry, and afraid call Neulia by Compulsion Solutions. Holidays bring cheer to many, but to those who are addicted, it can bring tremendous suffering. When it seems like the whole world is coming together to celebrate, it's very easy for an addict to feel […]

Filling the Gaps in Porn and Sex Addiction Treatment

I want to start off by saying that in battling my own addiction to porn, I was profoundly helped by both traditional talk therapy and a 12-step program. I learned a lot from each, and I often hear from others who have been greatly helped by these approaches as well. However, for me, there were […]

Why Specialized Addiction Therapy is Necessary

Men, women, and mental health professionals who have come to a crossroads regarding porn and/or sex addiction often contact me. Despite diligently applying themselves to weekly talk sessions or couples therapy, a sex or porn addict will not progress until the root cause of their addiction is addressed. Without the right treatment, the addict will […]

Objectification Hurts Everyone

I ran across an article at Psychology Today, which spoke about the sexualization of women and girls, and how damaging it is not only to women, but also to men and boys. I was glad to see this article referencing some scientific studies that were conducted, because frankly, this is an issue, which needs more […]

What is a Sex Addict?

What is a sex addict? Well, it’s complicated. Generally, a sex addict is defined as someone who cannot control their sexual compulsive behavior to a degree that it interferes with their everyday life and relationships. But perhaps it would be better to define what a sex addict is not. Three Things Sex Addicts Are Not […]

3 Reasons to Overcome Sex Addiction

Can you overcome sex addictions? In a word, yes, you can. It’s not easy, but it is possible — and you will be a healthier person for it. Here are three reasons to do the work and break free of sex addictions. 1. Overcome Sex Addictions for Yourself. Sex addiction is not the same thing […]

How to Recover from Porn Addiction

If you’re asking how you can start your sex addiction recovery, you might be feeling overwhelmed. Fighting any addiction, especially in the beginning, can feel insurmountable. But here’s the great news: you can recover from porn addictions. This is not a permanent part of who you are. You can fight this, and you can win. […]

Money Won't Protect You From Porn Addiction: Why We Should Pay Attention to Chris Rock

Chris Rock has been relatively silent for the past few years. This comedy powerhouse who became famous for his standup routines, sitcoms, and his movie roles suddenly seemed to fall off the map. About a week ago, he reemerged with a new one-hour comedy special, and thousands of people sat down and tuned in to […]

The “Regular Guy” Sex Addict – More Common Than You Think

Sex addiction can affect anyone, regardless of education, profession, location, religion, background, or age. If you think you “can't” be a sex addict, think again. In my work as a sex addiction therapist, one of the more common misconceptions I run into is the idea that people in or who need sex addiction recovery have […]

If You're Watching Porn at Work, You Might Have a Big Problem

Recently, there was a story in the news about a Rhode Island lawmaker who distributed printouts of a Wikipedia page to his colleagues without realizing that it clearly showed open tabs from porn sites at the top of the page. This lawmaker has since apologized, and he even went so far as to claim that […]

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