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Unveiling the Layers: Sex Addiction is Not About Sex

As a sex addiction counselor, my journey has been one of enlightenment and breaking down stereotypes surrounding the complex issue of sex addiction. One of the most significant misconceptions I encounter daily is the belief that sex addiction is solely about the act of sex. In reality, it is a multifaceted issue rooted in deeper […]
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Screen Time and Growing Up: When Are Kids First Exposed to Porn in Today's World?

If you're a parent or someone who cares about kids in this digital age, you might be wondering about a topic that's become increasingly relevant – when are kids first exposed to porn in today's world? It's a question that many of us are grappling with, so let's dive in and explore this issue. Screen […]
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Unveiling the Truth: How Common is Sex Addiction?

In today's increasingly open society, discussions about various aspects of human behavior have become more prevalent. One such topic is sex addiction, a term that has gained attention due to its portrayal in media and entertainment. But how common is sex addiction, really? Is it a legitimate psychological condition or a misunderstood concept? Understanding Sex […]
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Can a Sex Addict Ever Change?

Understanding the Journey to Recovery Sex addiction, also known as hypersexuality or compulsive sexual behavior, is a challenging and often misunderstood issue that affects individuals from all walks of life. It can lead to severe consequences, damaging relationships, self-esteem, and overall well-being. Many people wonder if a sex addict can ever change and break free […]
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Debunking Misconceptions: What Sex Addiction Is NOT

Sexuality is a complex and deeply personal aspect of human life. In recent years, the term "sex addiction" has gained attention and sparked both curiosity and controversy. However, it is essential to separate fact from fiction and dispel some common misconceptions surrounding this concept. Sex Addiction is NOT simply a high sex drive: One of […]
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Is Sex Addiction Hereditary?

Unraveling the Genetic Factors Behind Compulsive Sexual Behavior Sexuality is a complex aspect of human behavior, with a wide range of variations and expressions. While most individuals experience a healthy and balanced approach to their sexual desires, others may struggle with compulsive sexual behavior known as sex addiction. The nature versus nurture debate has long […]
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Why You Need Someone Who's Been THROUGH Porn Addiction to Help You with Your Porn Addiction

Dealing with a porn addiction can be an overwhelming and isolating experience. Often, individuals struggling with this addiction may feel alone, ashamed, and unsure of how to seek help. There is a unique benefit in finding someone who has walked a similar path and overcome their own porn addiction. Shared Understanding and Empathy A person […]
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Navigating Intimacy in Recovery: Sex Addiction and Relationships

Recovering from sex addiction is a complex and challenging journey, and one aspect that often requires special attention is navigating intimacy in relationships. Intimacy involves emotional closeness, vulnerability, and a deep connection with another person. However, sex addiction can significantly impact a person's ability to develop and maintain healthy intimate relationships. As a sexual addiction […]
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Breaking the Stigma: Female Sex Addiction and Seeking Help

As a sexual addiction therapist, I have seen firsthand the stigma and shame that often surround female sex addiction. It can be challenging for women to seek help for this issue due to the fear of judgment and misunderstanding from others. However, it is essential to break down these barriers and create a safe and […]
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I resolved to quit porn in 2023, but I’m already failing

If you're reading this, you may have made the resolution to quit watching porn in 2023, but you're already struggling to keep that promise to yourself. You're not alone. Porn addiction is a real and growing problem, and it can be incredibly difficult to break free from. But it's not impossible. First, it's important to […]
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UNDEFENDED HONESTY

It’s possible to build an even stronger relationship if sex addiction or porn addiction has impacted your relationship. But how? One skill, a capacity that can be developed is undefended honesty. This is a form of honesty that builds on the truth that’s been revealed in the disclosure of your sexually compulsive behavior.  This kind […]
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React or Respond? 

React or respond? These are two very different things, so what’s the difference between the two? A reaction is tied to an emotion. You feel something and then you react, which is what creates an immediate external reaction. This might be in the form of anger, lashing out, even freezing up and running away. First, […]
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The TRUTH About Being Married To A Sex Addict

He swore on his children’s lives that he wasn’t having an affair. He said someone must have broken into his email account. He kept reassuring his wife that it was nothing. Finally, she got access to all of his phone records and his secret receipts. She also found a second cell phone he accidentally left […]
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PORN ADDICTION THERAPY SAVED MY MARRIAGE — AND MY LIFE!

Like many men, I thought my pornography sexual addiction was a dirty little secret known only to me. However, my wife started picking up on the “signs,” such as how I was not really “there” in our relationship, how I frequently had trouble “finishing” during sex, and how I had a general lack of interest […]
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George’s Story: I Stopped My Porn Addiction, And You Can Too

It took losing two wives before I finally admitted to myself that my use of porn was a serious problem. I finally realized I that porn and masturbation was running my life. That’s when I took the very big step (for me at the time) of calling a therapist to help me.   How did […]
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5 Signs A Little Bit of Porn Has Become a Big Problem

All guys do it, right?  It doesn't mean you have a problem. It's not an addiction, is it? Why can't I watch a little porn?   The problem for some men is that sex is an addictive substance, similar to alcohol and drugs.  Think of it in terms of social drinkers vs. alcoholics: one can […]
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6 Things That Get Better After Quitting Porn

You don't have to be a slave to porn. Below (from one of our amazing clients) are 6 things in your life that get better after you quit porn. You can do it too.Six months ago, my entire day revolved around porn. It was ruining my relationship. It was getting in the way of my […]
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Can “Looking” be a Symptom of Sex Addiction?

Can “looking” or ogling be a symptom of your sex compulsion? Does looking trigger you into deep fantasy leading to compulsive sexual thoughts that won’t stop until you act out? Often times “ogling” is a step in the wrong direction for sex addicts, leading to other unhealthy sexual behavior. It hurts spouses too - the […]
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What Tiger Woods Can Show Us About Sex Addiction: It Begins in Childhood

Recently, Josh Feinstein wrote a column for CBS Sports opining that Tiger Woods' father ruined his life. Even though I don't regularly follow golf, this caught my attention, because I completely agree with Josh's assessment of the situation. Tiger Woods is a publicly visible, but still tragic reminder that role modeling is how we learn […]
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Withdrawal

Attempting to stop your compulsive sexual behavior requires a non-simple truth—the need to become comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. Once you have acknowledged you have a sex addiction, and made the decision to get help, you need to prepare yourself for a period of withdrawal. Like any drug or substance, it’s not going to be easy […]
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