Porn Doc Is In … Dealing With Sexual Scenes on TV

Dear PornDoc, Q: I’m a married man in recovery from sexual addiction and pornography. I’ve noticed that since I’ve been in treatment, I get very uncomfortable watching any kind of nudity in movies and TV programs with my wife. I sort of sit there and hold my breath and hope she doesn’t get upset. How do I best deal with …

How Bad Can It Get?

Fred was compulsively watching porn and lost the woman in his life because he couldn’t connect with her. A co-worker caught him masturbating at work, and he was thinking about suicide…. watch this.

You Can Break the Cycle

After two failed marriages and a rough life… I broke the cycle. Now I help other men get the same result. You think you can’t stop, but you can, and I can help. Here’s a story you need to hear!

Intro Dialogue With Your Addict

Begin your journey here and watch us demonstrate an example of how your “inner addict dialogue” commands your actions many times. I think you will REALLY relate to this.

man experiencing the benefits of quitting porn

Sex Addiction and Happiness

When you act out sexually, are you ever really happy? Maybe? What if you think of happiness as before, during AND after? I worked with a return client recently who had completely stopped his sexual addictive behavior and when I asked him what the difference was for him this time around in treatment, he reflected and shared this revelation with …

Kids Watching Porn? It Happens More Than You Think

Lately, there have been a few articles published warning that erectile dysfunction meds like Viagra are being prescribed to younger men. When this pill first debuted, everyone assumed it was to help men of a certain age continue to enjoy a sex life. They probably didn’t anticipate young people in their early 20s using it too.   Don’t be misled. …

Integrity: Your Work Isn’t Done Yet

This is the third and final part in my series on resilience. I’ve taken you through the steps of incorporating self-care into your life, and also reminded you of the emotional tools you already have in your toolbox. Part One: Caring For Yourself When You Love An Addict Part Two: Power Regained: Working Your Way Through Your Partner’s Betrayal Now …

What Tiger Woods Can Show Us About Sex Addiction: It Begins in Childhood

Recently, Josh Feinstein wrote a column for CBS Sports opining that Tiger Woods’ father ruined his life. Even though I don’t regularly follow golf, this caught my attention, because I completely agree with Josh’s assessment of the situation. Tiger Woods is a publicly visible, but still tragic reminder that role modeling is how we learn to live our own lives. …

Lessons From Dorian Gray

In Oscar Wilde’s, The Picture of Dorian Gray, an artist’s portrait of Dorian reflects the soul of his subject. The original portrait captures the true beauty and innocence of Dorian at that time in his life. Over the years, Gray begins to live a hedonistic lifestyle and he continues to sink ever deeper into a life of sin and corruption. …

Power Regained —Working Your Way Through Your Partner’s Betrayal

This is the second blog in a series on resilience. In the first installment, I spoke about the importance of self care, and why it’s such a difficult concept for many betrayed women to comprehend. What I’d like to talk about now is what happens after you learn to prioritize your own needs. How do you continue to progress towards …

Replace That Sexually Compulsive Behavior!

Think of your compulsive sexual behavior as energy. More specifically, think of it as water…water that is used to flowing in both a certain direction and at a steady pace. Attempting to corral or control the water (i.e. building a wall) is often futile…unless you have both a plan and resources. If you have tried to stop or manage your …

Don’t Let Addiction Wag The Dog

Porn addiction often tries to wag the dog. The term “wag the dog” is used to describe a situation where something of lesser significance begins to control something of greater significance. So in other words, while it’s usually the dog who is wagging its tail, what if the tail could somehow gain control and wag the dog? In the grand …

Taking a Stand Against Porn Addiction

Overcoming an addiction, and beginning your journey towards recovery really begins when you learn how to take a stand against your addict self. When you can stand up and declare (either out loud, or silently), that you are now taking back control of your life, your actions and your relationships, you gain a position of power over your compulsions. I …

Porn Addiction Is A Progressive Disorder (But You Can Stop Before It’s Too Late)

Recently there was some truly troubling news coming out of New Jersey. A man was arrested and charged with two counts of Endangering the Welfare of a Child, after it was discovered that content from his live-streaming porn service involved children. To put that in plain English, the guy was putting 14-year-olds in webcam shows, and people – potentially lots …

Caring For Yourself When You Love An Addict

This is the first in a series of blog posts on resilience. As a therapist, I see resilience as the hallmark of mental health. The journey towards resilience is at the heart of my practice. Resilience is the quality that is developed and honed in the face of stress. The truth is none of us get out of this life …

One Word — Win!

In my work as a sex and porn addiction counselor, I remain in contact with my clients after the more intensive aspects of their program are finished. As these men move on to a more self-guided recovery mindset, they still encounter struggles or moments of choice. In these moments, they sometimes write to me to describe what’s going through their …

Examining Your Personal Timeline of Addiction

Sex and porn addicts can often trace the roots of their addiction back to certain events in their lives. These events may have been embarrassing, shameful, or damaging encounters with sexual feelings when you were younger. They often have a lasting effect on the personality – one that can last throughout your entire life, if left unaddressed. Addicts and non-addicts …

Can’t I Just Look at One Site?

I often get asked by men who are either starting in recovery, or considering recovery, “Can’t I just look at one porn site?” Porn addiction is every bit as serious as alcohol or drug addiction, so my answer to that would be another question: “What do you think is going to happen if you look at one porn site?” The …