In my practice, if I received a dollar for each time I heard from my clients, “I was too busy to write this week,” I would be a wealthy man. Like many things that are actually good for us, journaling or dialoguing often get put aside or buried by the busyness of life. Somehow putting […]
Being married to a porn or sex addict is at once infuriating and devastating. No matter which side of the marriage you’re on, this is a profoundly hard time. If you are in addiction recovery and it’s your goal to redeem your marriage, there is a lot of hard work ahead of you. But don't […]
There’s a lot of talk about how the dopamine receptors in your brain influence addictive behavior. Does dopamine feed addiction? What role does dopamine play when it comes to your brain and pornography? Here’s what you need to know: 1. Dopamine itself is not actually addictive. Contrary to popular belief, dopamine is not actually addictive […]
A NOTE FROM GEORGE ON "S" GROUPS Thirty years ago I staggered into a Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) meeting in Walnut Creek, California. I had my choice of Sexaholics Anonymous (SA), Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA), or SLAA. I chose SLAA because it was local and there were women in attendance. (I wanted to […]
Being caught in having an affair or admitting to an infidelity blows the door right off the vehicle that is your relationship. Intense feelings of anger, fear, resentment and sadness to name a few come to the forefront like a flood. If you have gone through this or are currently going through this turmoil in […]
Not too long ago, I was asked the following question by one of the men I work with: “Do I have to always remind myself that I'm a loser because of my addiction?” I admit I was taken aback by this question. So much so that I feel it's important to address it to a […]
Is there such a thing as “good porn” and “bad porn?” And are you asking from a truly ethical standpoint, or just as an excuse to wack it with less guilt? So is “good porn” a thing? Here are some thoughts to consider. “Good porn” is a tall order that may be hard to fill. […]
Is it bad to watch porn? If you’re asking, I have a sneaking suspicion that you already know the answer. At the very least, many studies agree that regular exposure to porn negatively affects the sexual satisfaction between partners. But why is it bad to watch porn? Porn is everywhere. It seems like everyone is […]
If you are considering seeking sex addiction help, you may feel held back by feelings of embarrassment or shame. You want help, but you don’t want anyone to know that you need help. These feelings are common. Sex addiction therapists understand the sensitive nature of these struggles and make your confidentiality their highest priority. Here […]
In my work with sex and porn addicts, I come across a recurring question: “What if something arouses me, but it also makes me really uncomfortable?” A lot of the guys I work with can actually feel fear in response to some things which they find arousing. They might find themselves wrestling with contradictions like […]
If you are in the midst of a porn addiction relapse, it’s easy to end up in a negative thought spiral. You might feel like a failure. You might feel worthless. You might feel like giving up. But while these feelings are common, that does not make them true. Sex addiction recovery is a process. […]
If you are seeking sex addiction recovery, your symptoms can feel overwhelming. How do you channel that energy and desire in a way that keeps you on-track? Sex addiction recovery will never be easy, but it is always possible. Here are a few brass-tacks ways to satisfy your symptoms and stay on the road to […]
Are there legit side effects to porn addictions? While you won’t actually get hairy palms from masturbating too much, (nor will you go blind), porn addiction's side effects are real. But addiction looks different than occasional use, and addiction requires help to overcome. Here are some signs and symptoms that point toward porn addictions: “Sometimes […]
So you want to know how to stop watching porn. It’s not easy, but you know what will make it easier? Keep yourself out of porn’s way as much as possible. A key way to break a porn habit is to stop the endless, sweaty cycle of clicking and fapping before it starts. But to […]
The symptoms of sex addicts might surprise you. Sex addicts are not people who loves sex, or has lots of sex, or have a powerful sex drive. The symptoms of addiction are completely different and have very little to do with the actual enjoyment of sex. Here are five symptoms to look out for. Five […]
If you’ve decided to quit porn, there is a wealth of advice out there about how to make it stick. Some of this advice is great, but some of it is, frankly, is hot garbage. Here are a few of the absolute worst ways to stop watching porn. Go It Alone Your pride might be […]
What is a sex addict? Well, it’s complicated. Generally, a sex addict is defined as someone who cannot control their sexual compulsive behavior to a degree that it interferes with their everyday life and relationships. But perhaps it would be better to define what a sex addict is not. Three Things Sex Addicts Are Not […]
If you are wondering how to stop porn addiction, you may be feeling trapped. Sex addictions are powerful, and overcoming it can feel completely overwhelming. But you are not alone. Addiction can be overcome, and you can start making healthy choices right now. Here’s how to get started: 1. Realize That You Need Help The […]
Is porn addicting? Like many other substances and behaviors that cause a dopamine spike in the brain — yes. Our brains are designed to seek the chemical rewards of pleasure, which is what makes it so easy to become addicted to anything that gives us a high-level dopamine hit, whether that be porn, sex, drugs, […]
Are there porn addiction side effects? If so, what are they? Can they negatively affect my life? Maybe you’re a habitual porn user who doesn’t like to use the word “addiction.” Everyone looks at porn, right? It’s everywhere and sometimes nearly impossible to avoid. But unfortunately, there are side effects to porn addictions, and they […]