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How to Stop Porn Addiction: The First 5 Steps

If you are wondering how to stop porn addiction, you may be feeling trapped. Addiction is powerful, and overcoming it can feel completely overwhelming. But you are not alone. Addiction can be overcome, and you can start making healthy choices right now. Here’s how to get started:

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Why is porn addicting?

Is porn addicting? Like many other substances and behaviors that cause a dopamine spike in the brain, yes. Our brains are designed to seek the chemical rewards of pleasure, which is what makes it so easy to become addicted to anything that gives us a high-level dopamine hit, whether that be porn, sex, drugs, sugar, or smoking a cigarette.

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Are there porn addiction side effects?

Are there porn addiction side effects? If so, what are they? Can they negatively affect my life? Maybe you’re a habitual porn user who doesn’t like to use the word “addiction.” Everyone looks at porn, right? It’s everywhere and sometimes nearly impossible to avoid. But unfortunately, there are side effects to porn addiction, and they can be more insidious than …

Procrastination and Addiction

-Starve your distractions, feed your focus.” Daniel Goleman Procrastination, defined as the action of delaying or postponing something, appears to be a universal human problem. We all struggle to get moving on the next important task — the school or work project, paying our bills, or having a difficult conversation with someone.

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How to Get Help for Sex Addiction

If you are wondering how to get help for sex addiction, you are probably feeling very alone. But you aren’t. Sex addiction is more common than you might think, and it is absolutely a treatable illness. Being a sex addict doesn’t make you a bad person, but it does mean you need help to overcome it. Help is out there, …

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How to Deal with Porn Addiction Withdrawal

Is porn addiction withdrawal a thing? Yes, as with any addiction, it is absolutely a real thing. And there are plenty of practical ways to work through this stage in your brain’s healing. Here’s how to get started.

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3 Reasons to Overcome Sex Addiction

Can you overcome sex addiction? In a word, yes, you can. It’s not easy, but it is possible, and you will be a healthier person for it. Here are three reasons to do the work and break free of sex addiction. 1. Overcome sex addiction for yourself. Sex addiction is not the same thing as a love and appreciation for …

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How to Recover from Porn Addiction

If you’re asking how to recover from porn addiction, you might be feeling overwhelmed. Fighting any addiction, especially in the beginning, can feel insurmountable. But here’s the great news: you can recover from porn addiction. This is not a permanent part of who you are. You can fight this, and you can win.

Learning To Be Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

There’s a saying in addiction that we act out what we don’t feel. The acting out behavior becomes a numbing device so that we can avoid feelings, thoughts, or experiences—often unconsciously. To feel or experience these things can be very uncomfortable.

Men: Look to Your Past. Do You Have a “Me Too” Moment?

In the wake of the terrible sexual harassment allegations against Harvey Weinstein, women all over social media are stepping forward to bravely say the words “Me Too” to show that they have also been victims of sexual harassment or sexual assault. The idea behind this movement is to show how widespread and how prevalent this behavior is, and hopefully it’s …

Power and Sex Addiction: What Hollywood Scandals Are Telling Us

With the flood of sexual harassment and abuse stories coming out of Hollywood recently, you might think the phone of a sex and porn addiction counselor would be ringing off the hook as hundreds of people call in to seek help. Personally, I’d like to see that happening, because it would be a sign that these men are waking up …

Is Porn Addiction Real?

To a person who struggles with compulsive sexual behavior like using online pornography, there is no such thing as a “little” bit of porn. A little bit becomes a whole lot, really quick. Despite that intimate knowledge of those who have come to realize that they are addicted to such behavior, many people scoff at the idea of the reality …

The Women Behind the Sex Scandals: Why They Need Help Too

Women have been coming forward in droves to share their stories of sexual assault and sexual misconduct perpetrated against them by some of the richest and most powerful men in the world. This is, I think, both a wonderful thing and a very complicated thing, because at the end of the day, there are real live women behind these stories, …

Porn Doc Is In: How Much Do You Need to Disclose?

Dear Porn Doc, I am a 40-plus year old man who has struggled with an addiction to pornography. It played a big part in my divorce. I am now in recovery (seeing a counselor and attending SA meetings) and have begun a new serious relationship and I am uncertain as to if I should share my past and if so, …

Talking to Kids About Sex and Porn (You’re Doing it Wrong)

 Modern parents have a lot to talk about with their kids when it comes to sex, porn, and relationships. Here’s how to do that in a healthy, positive way. I want to start off with a statistic I’ve observed in my work with porn addicts: only about 1 out of every 10 guys I talk to ever got the “sex …

4 Steps To Recovery From Porn Addiction: Walk, Don’t Run

Recovery from an addiction to sex or pornography is much more like a marathon rather than a sprint. Much will be required of and from you in your pursuit of sobriety. Recovery demands patience, perseverance, and maybe the most difficult—self-compassion. Many of my clients initially look for the quick sprint to the finish line…seeing the recovery process as a linear …

The “Regular Guy” Sex Addict – More Common Than You Think

Sex addiction can affect anyone, regardless of education, profession, location, religion, background or age. If you think you “can’t” be a sex addict, think again. In my work as a counselor, one of the more common misconceptions I run into is the idea that sex or porn addicts have a certain “look.” Or, if not their appearance, then something about …

Withdrawal

Attempting to stop your compulsive sexual behavior requires a non-simple truth—the need to become comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. Once you have acknowledged you have a sex addiction, and made the decision to get help, you need to prepare yourself for a period of withdrawal. Like any drug or substance, it’s not going to be easy ride. Going through withdrawal from …