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Casual Sex or "Friends With Benefits?" (A Perspective From A College Student)

I am a 22-year-old currently in college. What I see about sex and how it is viewed by my peers is much different than what I had expected. I always knew that people were having casual sex, but I had no idea how often it occurred. Even though casual sex can be common for people […]
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When Porn Victimizes Women – The TSA Scandal

Recently, there was a story in the news about a TSA agent who was suspended from his job after he was observed using his phone to take up-skirt videos of unsuspecting women in the airport where he worked. After his supervisors were tipped off to this behavior, they observed him secretly recording women as he […]
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Talking to Kids About Sex and Porn (You're Doing it Wrong)

 Modern parents have a lot to talk about with their kids when it comes to sex, porn, and relationships. Here's how to do that in a healthy, positive way. I want to start off with a statistic I've observed in my work as a sex addiction therapist: only about 1 out of every 10 guys […]
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Anthony Weiner: Sex Addiction Needs More than Talk Therapy

  Anthony Weiner has found himself back in the spotlight in recent days, thanks to yet another sexting scandal. A memory refresher: Anthony Weiner was a congressman who first found himself in trouble back in 2011, when a picture of a man in his underwear was sent out from his Twitter account. After a few […]
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Here's Why Ozzy Needs Such Intense Sex Addiction Therapy

  On a recent episode of The Talk, Sharon Osbourne spoke openly about her husband Ozzy's sex addiction. Not only did she confirm that he is grappling with sexually compulsive behavior, but she mentioned an intense rehab therapy regimen he is following. During his tours, he will be seeing therapists in an outpatient capacity for […]
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Is Porn “Killing” Parts of Your Life?

Recently, a story surfaced out of the Midwest about the driver of a tractor-trailer who caused a fatal accident while possibly watching porn videos on his cell phone. Now, seeing as how he hasn't gone to trial yet, this is all still alleged, but I bring it up because it's not the first time I've […]
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Porn Addiction: A Few Short Term Solutions to Recovery

Recovery from sex and porn addictions certainly takes some time in getting well and breaking the habit of acting out sexually. We can look at recovery in two phases — short-term and long-term. Short-term recovery may be viewed as getting the behavior to a degree of manageability and control while longer-term examines the deeper, underlying […]
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Sex Addiction and Happiness

When you act out sexually, are you ever really happy? Maybe? What if you think of happiness as before, during AND after? I worked with a return client recently who had completely stopped his sexual addictive behavior and when I asked him what the difference was for him this time around in treatment, he reflected […]
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Confessions of a Porn Zombie

"Poooooooooorrrrrrn . . . . . Pooooorrrrrrrrrrrrrrnnnn ..... Porrrnnnnnnnn ...." . . . I grunted as my lifeless corpse limped closer to what it needed most. Shuffling, slow, and primal I fixed my gaze on the “food” glowing off my computer screen, . . . calling me . . . I called back, "poooorrrrrrrnnnn."  Now […]
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What Lamar Odom’s New Book Tells Us About Sex Addiction (And Why That Story Isn’t Finished)

Recently, Lamar Odom announced the release of his book “Darkness to Light,” which chronicles his struggles with substance abuse as well as sex addictions. You might remember that a few years back, he nearly OD’d in a Las Vegas brothel. That event seems like it was a bit of a wakeup call for Lamar. I’m […]
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What "Leaving Neverland” Teaches Us About the Importance of Therapy

If you’ve turned on the news recently, or even checked out any social media or gossip websites, you’ve likely seen dozens of reactions – some good, some bad – to the shocking HBO documentary Leaving Neverland. In this series, two men, Wade Robson and James Safechuck recount their alleged victimization by pop star Michael Jackson […]
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Lessons From Dorian Gray

In Oscar Wilde’s, The Picture of Dorian Gray, an artist’s portrait of Dorian reflects the soul of his subject. The original portrait captures the true beauty and innocence of Dorian at that time in his life. Over the years, Gray begins to live a hedonistic lifestyle and he continues to sink ever deeper into a […]
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Can Rihanna Help Wives of Sex Addicts?

Rihanna was named by Time Magazine as one of the 100 Most Influential people on the planet. She's stated that she doesn't want to be a role model, but … well, she's on the list, so she's clearly "influential." There have been continuing reports that she may be rekindling her relationship with Chris Brown despite […]
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"The Blonde in the Beemer" — Moments When You Feel Totally Out Of Control

We want to be totally open with you here at Neulia. So in an effort to show you that you're not alone, here's George's story about chasing after the “Blonde in the Beemer.” Years ago, George was driving along the highway when he happened to spot a blonde in a red convertible BMW. Now, at […]
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The Top Three Ways to Find Sex Addicts Therapy

Sex addicts therapy is an essential component in your journey towards freedom. No addict can break free in a vacuum. Help, counseling, and accountability are key. Here are some options to get you started. Online support from former addicts You can access support anytime, anywhere. Neulia offers Rapid Results programs that are exclusively online. Learn […]
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Sex Addiction or Porn Addiction: You Are Not Alone

A key deterrent in your getting help in recovery from compulsive sexual behavior is the feeling that you're alone in this battle. This belief leads to further isolation, further procrastination in getting help, and further suffering. If you’ve already been down this road then you know these words, this system so to speak, rings true and […]
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Pedophile Proponents - A Dangerously Delusional Belief System

As a therapist for many years, I’ve worked with men and women who were sexually molested as children, as well as with the wives of men who were addicted to various types of porn. Consequently, on reading an article advocating the decriminalization of pedophilia I felt physically sick to my stomach. (You can Google articles […]
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How to Get Help for Sex Addiction

If you are wondering how to get help for sex addiction, you are probably feeling very alone. But you aren’t. Sex addiction is more common than you might think, and it is absolutely a treatable illness. Being a sex addict doesn’t make you a bad person, but it does mean you need help to overcome […]
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What Can the Robert Kraft Prostitution Scandal Teach Us About Addictive Behavior?

Let’s state something important right up front: we have no idea if Robert Kraft is a sex addict or any other kind of addict. We don’t personally know the man, and it’s not our place to diagnose anyone from afar. However, his story being in the news right now does give us a unique opportunity […]
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Jerry Sandusky: The Sins Of The Father Visited Upon The Son

It's been a while since the name “Sandusky” has dominated the news, but it popped back up recently when it was revealed that Jeffrey Sandusky, son of the disgraced Penn State assistant coach, was arrested for similarly troubling behavior. I wish I could say I was surprised to learn about this, but in my business […]
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