Counseling Over the Phone As Effective As In Person Says Study

Psychology Today published an article (except below) saying that a study has concluded that phone sessions are as effective as face to face counseling. We here at Compulsion Solutions specialize in phone and Skype sessions with incredible results so this news was no surprise. We find that our clients prefer phone sessions to help them with their sex and porn …

Warning to Parents: Porn on Xbox via YouPorn

Internet safety is very important to us here at Compulsion Solutions. We receive calls every week from young men who started watching porn when they were under 10 years old and are now struggling with sex and porn addiction. Do you find this statement hard to believe? It’s true! Did you know the average age of exposure to internet pornography …

Can You Rebuild Your Relationship If Your Partner Is A Sex Addict?

Many women who are in relationship with a sex addict or a porn addict have asked me “Was our entire life a lie?” or “Why have I stayed in this relationship as long as I have?” I believe that a crucial part of recovery and self-growth is understanding what you are working toward. Feeling some sense of positivity is crucial …

For A Sex Addict Small Stumbles Can Lead To Big Falls

If you have a tendency toward compulsive or addictive behaviors, like sex addiction or porn addiction, it’s important to learn how to be vigilant and watch for small triggering situations — those seemingly almost  “innocent” temptations that you may act on, those situations that in and of themselves are not all that bad. As you know if you’ve dealt with …

Sex Addiction Does Not Have To Destroy Sexual Intimacy That Is Your Birthright

Many of the men who have issues with sex addiction or porn addiction are dealing with the destructive effects of a childhood filled with degrading emotional abuse from parents, siblings, friends, teachers. Below is an email I received from one of these men who we’ll refer to here as “Bob.” Bob has been married to “Joan” for twenty-something years and, as …

The Girl That Got Away, Well … Kind Of (A Client Dialog)

My work with one of my clients has involved his dreams. This guy has a lot of them. And, as you will see below, they’re not always easy. My instruction to him has been to dialogue with them. Go after them. This way he can shed light on the mental and emotional parts that produce sexually compulsive behavior. Like the characters or actors in …

The Porn Doc Is In! Answers To Your Questions About Porn Addiction—2nd Edition

Porn addiction and sex addiction experts from Compulsion Solutions, answer your most pressing questions. We’ll answer your question too… email Porn Doc.  Dear Porn Doc, The problem with my addiction occurs a lot at night. I have difficulty sleeping and when I wake up in the middle of the night (which is often), I tend to act out online. I just don’t seem …

Porn Addiction Masquerading As A Game—Chatroulette

Type the address. Load web cam. Drop pants. And click go. That was the norm for me on a site known as chatroulette. I discovered the site in the most innocuous way. A few guys were on it at work. I went on it with them and we started joking, talking, socializing, and trolling with the random people on the …

3 Ways To Rebuild Trust In A Relationship Damaged By Sex Addiction

Each couple shares a sort of bank account, not an account built on currency, but rather one supported by trust. When the relationship is impacted by sex addictions or porn addictions, when one of the partners acts out sexually, that partner essentially bankrupts the account. They withdraw a large amount of trust that shakes the very foundation of the relationship. …

The Porn Doc Is In! – Answers To Your Questions About Porn Addiction

Renowned porn addiction and sex addiction therapist, George Collins, answers your most pressing questions. If you have a question, email Porn Doc. Dear Porn Doc, Q: I used to be a chronic porn addict. Now I’m not looking at porn every day but I’m just not able to stay away from looking at porn and masturbating for more than a week …

I AM REALLY GOOD AT HEART by a Compulsion Solutions Client

I’ve always been very moved by Anne Frank. One of her writings really caught me back in high school when I read her diary and it has stuck with me in one way or another all of my life. “I still believe, in spite of everything, that people are really good at heart.” I knew inherently that I was a …

Confessions of a Porn Zombie

“Poooooooooorrrrrrn . . . . . Pooooorrrrrrrrrrrrrrnnnn ….. Porrrnnnnnnnn ….” . . . I grunted as my lifeless corpse limped closer to what it needed most. Shuffling, slow, and primal I fixed my gaze on the “food” glowing off my computer screen, . . . calling me . . . I called back, “poooorrrrrrrnnnn.”  Now sweating, my heart beating faster …

Sex Addiction Shame Guarantee

I teach clients who are suffering from sex addiction and porn addiction how to shed light on the mental and emotional parts of themselves that produce sexually compulsive behavior. Similar to the characters or actors in a story or movie, every one of us has  immature complexes or sub-personalities within ourselves that don’t seem to be able to “grow up.”  One way …

Let’s Look At The Issue Of Betrayal

“A Friend Stabs You In The Front” Oscar Wilde In reflecting on this view of betrayal from Oscar Wilde, I am struck by the very nature of betrayal — disloyalty that catches you unaware and stabs you in the back. This is the betrayal that can only be done by a trusted person; someone that you believe is committed to you …

THE SHAME LOOK From My Father

My road to becoming a sex addict started when I was about 8 or 9 years old in my backyard pool after an sexual “incident” that changed my life.   I had a pool and would occasionally have friends over. A few of us would get naked and swim around. It all seemed pretty harmless until one day my friend, who …

Why Is It So Hard To Stop Acting Out? (Breaking Up Is Hard To Do)

Stopping, really stopping, sexual compulsion behavior or sex addictions presents a major challenge. Some of us can actually stop or at least curb our behavior but we never really feel out of the woods. We continue to feel that we are prone to relapsing. Intellectually we may know that the bad choices we might make are harmful, even wrong, yet …

Sex Addiction, the Tragic Consequences of Not Getting Help

This video tells the story of a sex addict who desperately needed help, put it off and the tragic consequences of his delay seeking treatment. This story is a great lesson for anyone suffering from any sort of addiction but specifically sex addiction. DON’T WAIT! You Deserve Better. I talk to men every day who wish they called sooner. So …