What Is Sexual Addiction & Can It Be Overcome?

Sex addiction is a compulsive urge to engage in sexual activity, thoughts, or fantasies in ways that are detrimental to an individual, his or her family, friends, and/or work. It blocks the development of true intimacy in a relationship. Sex addiction is also called sexual dependency or sexual compulsivity.  Just because someone likes to masturbate or to have sex frequently …

7 Signs Your Partner Is A Sex Addict

  If something seems amiss in your sexual relationship with your partner, it’s possible that he is compulsively using internet porn or sexual connection with others in a destructive way. There are warning signs you might see if your partner is having a problem with sexual compulsive behavior: 1. He may spend a lot of private time on his computer, his phone, or at work. Working …

How To Tell If You’re Addicted To Sex

In its basic and natural form (if there has not been physical or emotional damage along the way) human sexual contact feels good, touching feels good, having an orgasm feels good. This is normal and wonderful. Your innate desire for sex and sexual pleasure is not an enemy. Your natural sexual impulse can guide you to finding closeness, connectedness, and …

Regret, Shame, Compassion & Self-Forgiveness

Facing any addiction is a tough business. Facing sex addiction or porn addiction can bring with it waves of shame, of regret. But there can be a gift in this. Learning to work with the shame, the regret can lead to a deeper understanding of compassion and self-forgiveness. We all have parts of ourselves that are dark and ugly, that …

Porn Doc Is In: Disclosure How To & About Support

Porn addiction and sex addiction experts from Compulsion Solutions answer your most pressing questions. We’ll answer your question too… e-mail Porn Doc. Dear Porn Doc, My partner and I are both in recovery. I am at peace with the idea of moving forward from this point being honest and open about my sexual addiction. What I am not so comfortable with (actually frightened of) …

A Porn Addict Talks to “Orgasm”

For a sex or porn addict, an orgasm takes on a meaning, an importance, a significance that gets in the way of the rest of his or her life. The natural pleasure becomes confused, even missing. In speaking/writing to this aspect of self, the desire for an orgasm, one of our clients moves closer to understanding what is actually driving his need for that one more orgasm … and where that leads.

Porn Guilt—The Gift That Keeps On Giving

Guilt about your porn addiction, your acting out sexually, is the gift that keeps on giving, and giving and giving—until you’re in the emotional gutter, your self-esteem is toast. Guilt. You feel “less than.” Guilt. You isolate. You forget about your friends. You are sure that they must be better off than you—for a myriad of reasons. But most importantly …

6 Things That Get Better After Quitting Porn

You don’t have to be a slave to porn. Below (from one of our amazing clients) are 6 things in your life that get better after you quit porn. You can do it too.   Six months ago, my entire day revolved around porn. It was ruining my relationship. It was getting in the way of my goals and plans. …

The Porn Doc Is In! Answers To Your Questions About Porn Addiction—6th Edition

Porn addiction and sex addiction experts from Compulsion Solutions answer your most pressing questions. We’ll answer your question too… e-mail Porn Doc. Dear Porn Doc: My wife wants to watch porn with me. Perfect, right? Why I am so turned off by this? We tried once or twice but I was so petrified and closed off. I am so accustomed to watching porn for …

Sex Addiction & Porn Addiction: You’re Only As Sick As Your Secrets

Lance Armstrong has now finally admitted to his longtime use of performance enhancing drugs. As this story unfolds on the national stage, it can serve as a reminder particularly to those of us who struggle with sex and porn addiction, of the personal and collateral damage that unravels once lies are exposed. If you are struggling with sex or porn …

My Decision To WIN

If you are struggling/have struggled with sex addiction (or porn addiction), you know how difficult it can be. My clients’ capacities to take a stand for themselves and choose to win continues to inspire me. I think this story will inspire you too.   from one of George’s clients… For me final piece of the puzzle goes like this: all …

The Porn Doc Is In! Answers To Your Questions About Porn Addiction—5th Edition

Porn addiction and sex addiction experts from Compulsion Solutions answer your most pressing questions. We’ll answer your question too… e-mail Porn Doc.   Dear Porn Doc: The Christmas season brings up a lot of mixed emotions for me. As a person who struggles with sex addiction, I find myself caught between creating new traditions with my wife and kids and remembering a lot of …

Holiday Triggers & Cheering For Yourself

We all know that holidays can be stressful. There are additional expectations from loved ones, gift purchases, and quality time with less than beloved in-laws. Addicts, who are often used to being more isolated, may be faced with holiday friends, family, and house guests. With all these additional interactions, the addict or recovering addict may have less free time for …

Compulsion Solutions Retreat at Lake Tahoe

An exclusive retreat was offered to a handful of current and previous Compulsion Solutions clients who spent a weekend at beautiful Lake Tahoe at an amazing, exclusive lodge on the lake. This retreat was for those men who were ready to elevate and expand their current awareness and capacities, with a specific focus on “What’s Left?” in terms of addiction …

The Porn Doc Is In! Answers To Your Questions About Porn Addiction

Porn addiction and sex addiction experts from Compulsion Solutions answer your most pressing questions. We’ll answer your question too… e-mail Porn Doc. Dear Porn Doc: I’m a 22-year-old college student. I look at a lot of online pornography and have been since I was about 13. I’m concerned about my ability to perform with a real person. Technically I’m a virgin but the few …

Dealing With SEX With My Sexually Addicted Partner

A BIG question that I often hear from women who are in relationship with a sex addict is: “How do I deal with sex while my partner is recovering from his sex addiction?” There are probably a lot of questions swirling in your head right now. It’s a lot to deal with. You may be asking yourself—  “Should I even …

Rick Springfield Is A Sex Addict AND Inspiring

80’s superstar Rick Springfield wrote a book called Late, Late at Night, in which he talks about his suicide attempt, a lifelong strugge with sex addiction, and depression. His interviews are powerful as are his recent live performances. I’ve had Jessie’s Girl stuck in my head since I started reading about him. Remember that song? His recent song “I Hate Myself” …

7 Reassurances For The Partner Of A Sex Or Porn Addict

You Didn’t Cause This, You Can’t Cure It. It’s Not About You   We offer these reassurances to you with the intention that they help soothe your immediate pain—realizing that they are not going to solve the problem of your partner’s acting out behaviors. He will need to seek help and support. You may very well need to seek help …

The Porn Doc Is In! Answers To Your Questions About Porn Addiction

Porn addiction and sex addiction experts from Compulsion Solutions, answer your most pressing questions. We’ll answer your question too… e-mail Porn Doc. Dear Porn Doc: One of my biggest problems isn’t necessarily looking at porn…but rather looking at women—a lot. In fact, I am often not even aware that I am doing it and have really gotten into trouble with both my current …