5 Reasons I DON’T Want To Look At Porn Today

 

When viewing porn is at the center of your life it might be hard to imagine that you might eventually find reasons to NOT want to look at porn. I recently received the following list of reasons from one of my client and was quite impressed so I thought I’d share them with you. George

 

1. The first reason that I don’t want to look at porn today is because I will never lie to my wife again.

Of course! What a concept. Stop lying. It really does feel GOOD not to lie. So simple. I lied about this issue my whole life….to others and to myself. Lying kept me separate and alone…even while married. Lying kept me from true intimacy with my wife. No more lying. No more. I was only as sick as my secrets.

 

2. The second reason that I don’t want to look at pornography today is because porn is a repulsive business that mistreats the people it employs and the audience it serves.

I finally get it now. Of course. People are used like animals. No concept of connection, intimacy, or mental/physical health issues. Sex is much more than entertainment or just sexual release. Intimacy is the REAL prize. Whew! I’m NOT gonna pay the porn people another nickel for the “special stuff” that I thought was so fantastic. It wasn’t. It was poison. Poison to me and poison to my marriage.

 

Kiss3. The third reason that I don’t want to do pornography today is because sex is 100% better since I stopped looking at porn.

My God! I used to think of porn when I was having sex with my wife. Imagine that? Locked in sexual embrace and I was not in the room with her. Is that crazy? I didn’t understand that NO THOUGHT is highly preferable when having intimate sex. No thought during sex with my wife leads to an almost out-of-body experience and connection that makes that porn stuff look pathetic. Just US. Me and my wife. No thought. Fantastic! Who knew?

 

4. The fourth reason that I don’t want to look at pornography today is because I’m finally proud of who I am and feel like I deserve the love and life that I receive, instead of always feeling like if people knew what I did they would never like me.

It’s an awful feeling to be hiding the dirty truth. It impacted me in ways that I couldn’t even imagine. It impacted my marriage (obviously) and also impacted my work, hobbies, and general functionality in this world. I can finally hold my head up and be proud of who I am.

 

happy man celebrating his success isolated over a white backgrou5. The fifth reason that I don’t want to do pornography today is because I haven’t been depressed in over six months and I never want to feel that way again.

Bingo! Sex addiction leads to poor self-image and depression. No more need to take anti-depressants. I found the root causes of my depression through George’s help. Fear, pain, shame, self-doubt, judgment, self-criticism, and anger were my main issues. Once I was able to SEE this and implement the dialogue work that George suggested … I got a life, and the addictive coping strategy of porn use was no longer needed.

 

I wish I could convince everyone in the world to stop looking at porn right now, or never start, but I imagine that would kind of be like having every nation in the world disarm. But, at least Compulsion Solutions is helping guys stop being a slave to porn … one client at a time.

 

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6 thoughts on “5 Reasons I DON’T Want To Look At Porn Today

  1. Jim

    I found this on web just now, I also have this problem of looking at videos on the web and spending money at a massage parlor. I tell myself that I am all done but it never happens. I have been keeping this a secret and want to continue that way so maybe thru this means of contact and e mails you can help me. I am 69 years old and wife is 74. Her interest in sex does not exist and maybe that is why I do what I do. Not good, so thru e mails for now can you help????

  2. Nily

    Even though I’m not married, I can totally relate to the 3rd point.

    Desensitisation from porn can ruin sexual intimacy. Back then, the only way for me climax was to think of porn scenes. It’s ridiculous now that I think of it.
    Ever since I stopped watching porn, sex has been mind blowing and the opposite party feels less like a sexual aid to me.

    Great post!

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      You’re so right Nily. Porn’s a nowhere trip. You can never get enough of what won’t satisfy you. Ever. Until you stop it and experience true intimacy. Congratulations on your achievement. It’s a big deal. George

  3. brad martinez

    I just read 5 reasons to not look at porn, and I made some realizations about myself, and my relationship with my wife and kids. Wow, an eye opener. I really look forward to your guidance and help. Thank you.

    1. Compulsion Solutions Post author

      Brad, Glad what we do is working for you. This CAN be overcome and you can have a fabulous porn-free life. Best, George

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