When viewing porn is at the center of your life, it might be hard to imagine that you might eventually find reasons to NOT want to look at porn. I recently received the following list of reasons from one of my clients and was quite impressed. So I thought I’d share them with you. George

1. The first reason that I don’t want to look at porn today is because I will never lie to my wife again.

Of course! What a concept. Stop lying. It really does feel GOOD not to lie. So simple. I lied about this issue my whole life — to others and to myself. Lying kept me separate and alone — even while married. Lying kept me from true intimacy with my wife. No more lying. No more. I was only as sick as my secrets.

2. The second reason that I don’t want to look at pornography today is because porn is a repulsive business that mistreats the people it employs and the audience it serves.

I finally get it now. Of course. People are used like animals. No concept of connection, intimacy, or mental/physical health issues. Sex is much more than entertainment or just sexual release. Intimacy is the REAL prize. Whew! I’m NOT gonna pay the porn people another nickel for the “special stuff” that I thought was so fantastic. It wasn’t. It was poison. Poison to me and poison to my marriage.

3. The third reason that I don’t want to use pornography today is because sex is 100% better since giving up porn.

My God! I used to think of porn when I was having sex with my wife. Imagine that? Locked in sexual embrace and I was not in the room with her. Isn't that crazy? I didn’t understand that NO THOUGHT is highly preferable when having intimate sex. No thought during sex with my wife leads to an almost out-of-body experience and connection that makes that porn stuff look pathetic. Just US. Me and my wife. No thought. Fantastic! Who knew?

4. The fourth reason that I don’t want to look at pornography today is because I’m finally proud of who I am and feel like I deserve the love and life that I receive instead of always feeling like if people knew what I did, they would never like me.

It's an awful feeling to be hiding the dirty truth. It impacted me in ways that I couldn't even imagine. It impacted my marriage (obviously) and also impacted my work, hobbies, and general functionality in this world. I can finally hold my head up and be proud of who I am.

5. The fifth reason that I don’t want to do pornography today is because I haven’t been depressed in over six months and I never want to feel that way again.

Bingo! Porn addictions lead to poor self-image and depression. No more need to take anti-depressants. I found the root causes of my depression through George’s help. Fear, pain, shame, self-doubt, judgment, self-criticism, and anger were my main issues. Once I was able to SEE this and implement the dialogue work that George suggested I got a life, and the addictive coping strategy of porn use was no longer needed.

I wish I could convince everyone in the world to start giving up porn right now, or never start, but I imagine that would kind of be like having every nation in the world disarm. But, at least Neulia Compulsion Solutions is helping guys stop being a slave to porn ... one client at a time.

Get help giving up porn. Reach out to Neulia Compulsion Solutions for help with porn addiction today.