Caring For Yourself When You Love An Addict

Caring For Yourself When You Love An Addict

This is the first in a series of blog posts on resilience. As a therapist, I see resilience as the hallmark of mental health. The journey towards resilience is at the heart of my practice. Resilience is the quality that…

An Unwelcome Guest?

An Unwelcome Guest?

Imagine you’re at home and you get a knock at your front door. You’re not expecting anyone, so you’re dubious. You take a clandestine peek to see who it is… hopefully without them seeing you. Now imagine that your “guest”…

Doing Dumb Things On My Smartphone

Doing Dumb Things On My Smartphone

It may be difficult to think of a time when we were sans smartphones…or even a plain cell phone for that matter. Technological advances in personal electronics, particularly the mobile phone, have come fast and furiously. In the early 2000’s,…

How Dangerous Is Your Porn Addiction?

How Dangerous Is Your Porn Addiction?

Addiction can kill. Anyone who has ever watched a family member or friend succumbs to alcoholism, or overdose on drugs can tell you that. Yet, when talking about porn addiction, many people see it as less serious and less deadly.…

Inside Out — Talking To Your Addict

Inside Out — Talking To Your Addict

If you have children, or you’re a child at heart, maybe you’ve seen the movie, Inside Out, an animated film that cleverly depicts the emotions inside a child’s mind as a cast of characters trying to work together—or not—to help…

Wired To Worry

Wired To Worry

Therapists often like to use the onion metaphor for depicting feelings as layers that need to be peeled back to expose the truth…or in California we opt for the artichoke as we eventually expose the heart! If you are struggling…

What’s Your Travel Plan?

What’s Your Travel Plan?

If you’re someone who struggles with a pornography addiction, sex addiction, or both, traveling on your own can be particularly worrisome. In order to act out sexually, you essentially need place and space…both conveniently offered when you are in your…

Your Porn Addiction Secret

Your Porn Addiction Secret

When you’re the only one who knows about your porn addiction, it’s a scary and lonely place. You become filled with shame, self-doubt, criticism and anger. You respond to these negative feelings by trying to soothe yourself with more porn,…

Habits, Patterns, And Addictions

Habits, Patterns, And Addictions

How we perceive and experience the world around us is based on patterns. Many patterns in your world experience are out of our control, such as the planets orbiting the sun. You can’t change those patterns. Other patterns are automatic…

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