Integrity: Your Work Isn’t Done Yet

Integrity: Your Work Isn’t Done Yet

This is the third and final part in my series on resilience.   I’ve taken you through the steps of incorporating self-care into your life, and also reminded you of the emotional tools you already have in your toolbox.  …

Lessons From Dorian Gray

Lessons From Dorian Gray

In Oscar Wilde’s, The Picture of Dorian Gray, an artist’s portrait of Dorian reflects the soul of his subject. The original portrait captures the true beauty and innocence of Dorian at that time in his life. Over the years, Gray…

Replace That Sexually Compulsive Behavior!

Replace That Sexually Compulsive Behavior!

Think of your compulsive sexual behavior as energy. More specifically, think of it as water…water that is used to flowing in both a certain direction and at a steady pace. Attempting to corral or control the water (i.e. building a…

Caring For Yourself When You Love An Addict

Caring For Yourself When You Love An Addict

This is the first in a series of blog posts on resilience. As a therapist, I see resilience as the hallmark of mental health. The journey towards resilience is at the heart of my practice. Resilience is the quality that…

An Unwelcome Guest?

An Unwelcome Guest?

Imagine you’re at home and you get a knock at your front door. You’re not expecting anyone, so you’re dubious. You take a clandestine peek to see who it is… hopefully without them seeing you. Now imagine that your “guest”…

Doing Dumb Things On My Smartphone

Doing Dumb Things On My Smartphone

It may be difficult to think of a time when we were sans smartphones…or even a plain cell phone for that matter. Technological advances in personal electronics, particularly the mobile phone, have come fast and furiously. In the early 2000’s,…

How Dangerous Is Your Porn Addiction?

How Dangerous Is Your Porn Addiction?

Addiction can kill. Anyone who has ever watched a family member or friend succumbs to alcoholism, or overdose on drugs can tell you that. Yet, when talking about porn addiction, many people see it as less serious and less deadly.…

Inside Out — Talking To Your Addict

Inside Out — Talking To Your Addict

If you have children, or you’re a child at heart, maybe you’ve seen the movie, Inside Out, an animated film that cleverly depicts the emotions inside a child’s mind as a cast of characters trying to work together—or not—to help…

Wired To Worry

Wired To Worry

Therapists often like to use the onion metaphor for depicting feelings as layers that need to be peeled back to expose the truth…or in California we opt for the artichoke as we eventually expose the heart! If you are struggling…

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