Self-Criticism vs Self-Compassion

Self-Criticism vs Self-Compassion

Examining your sexual compulsive behavior, you may find that negative feelings often drive the need to act out sexually. Kind of makes sense, doesn’t it? If you’re feeling lousy it’s a natural reaction to search for other things to cope…

Coping With Your First Holiday Alone

Coping With Your First Holiday Alone

  Despite everyone’s best efforts, it is a hard fact of life that some relationships simply can’t survive a sex or porn addiction. Even after second chances, extensive counseling and a real commitment to making it work, sometimes one partner’s…

The Sex Addiction Debate: Yes, It’s Real

The Sex Addiction Debate: Yes, It’s Real

In the continuing wake of the Anthony Weiner scandal, many voices are chiming in with their own takes on the matter of his sex addiction. Among them is a growing voice of doubt as to whether or not sex addiction…

Celebrity Addiction Rehab: Not The Only Way To Do It

Celebrity Addiction Rehab: Not The Only Way To Do It

As the news from the election cycle continues to swirl, somewhere in the mix you may have noticed a few stories detailing Anthony Wiener’s treatment for sex addiction. Perhaps this won’t surprise anyone, but he’s working through his recovery at…

Feelings Are NOT Facts

Feelings Are NOT Facts

We often talk to our clients about investigating the feelings underneath the sexual acting out behavior. Something must be driving the need to act out, right? Often these are called triggers —thoughts, feelings, and situations that push us to seek…

How Dealing With a Partner’s Addiction Changes You

How Dealing With a Partner’s Addiction Changes You

  We talk a lot about the healing process that women undergo in order to cope with their partner’s addiction. However, there’s one thing I haven’t mentioned yet, and that’s the fact that this journey you’re on will change you.…

When Porn Victimizes Women – The TSA Scandal

When Porn Victimizes Women – The TSA Scandal

Recently, there was a story in the news about a TSA agent who was suspended from his job after he was observed using his phone to take up-skirt videos of unsuspecting women in the airport where he worked. After his…

Porn Doc Is In … Dealing With Sexual Scenes on TV

Porn Doc Is In … Dealing With Sexual Scenes on TV

Dear PornDoc, Q: I’m a married man in recovery from sexual addiction and pornography. I’ve noticed that since I’ve been in treatment, I get very uncomfortable watching any kind of nudity in movies and TV programs with my wife. I…

Sex Addiction and Happiness

Sex Addiction and Happiness

When you act out sexually, are you ever really happy? Maybe? What if you think of happiness as before, during AND after? I worked with a return client recently who had completely stopped his sexual addictive behavior and when I…

Kids Watching Porn? It Happens More Than You Think

Kids Watching Porn? It Happens More Than You Think

Lately, there have been a few articles published warning that erectile dysfunction meds like Viagra are being prescribed to younger men. When this pill first debuted, everyone assumed it was to help men of a certain age continue to enjoy…

Integrity: Your Work Isn’t Done Yet

Integrity: Your Work Isn’t Done Yet

This is the third and final part in my series on resilience.   I’ve taken you through the steps of incorporating self-care into your life, and also reminded you of the emotional tools you already have in your toolbox.  …

Lessons From Dorian Gray

Lessons From Dorian Gray

In Oscar Wilde’s, The Picture of Dorian Gray, an artist’s portrait of Dorian reflects the soul of his subject. The original portrait captures the true beauty and innocence of Dorian at that time in his life. Over the years, Gray…

Replace That Sexually Compulsive Behavior!

Replace That Sexually Compulsive Behavior!

Think of your compulsive sexual behavior as energy. More specifically, think of it as water…water that is used to flowing in both a certain direction and at a steady pace. Attempting to corral or control the water (i.e. building a…

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