How Dangerous Is Your Porn Addiction?

How Dangerous Is Your Porn Addiction?

Addiction can kill. Anyone who has ever watched a family member or friend succumbs to alcoholism, or overdose on drugs can tell you that. Yet, when talking about porn addiction, many people see it as less serious and less deadly.…

Your Porn Addiction Secret

Your Porn Addiction Secret

When you’re the only one who knows about your porn addiction, it’s a scary and lonely place. You become filled with shame, self-doubt, criticism and anger. You respond to these negative feelings by trying to soothe yourself with more porn,…

Porn: 2 Sides To The Camera

Porn: 2 Sides To The Camera

Recently, a documentary premiered on Netflix called Hot Girls Wanted.  While this is certainly not the first of its kind, it’s still an enlightening and eye-opening look at the realities of the porn industry. Most notably, it gives a behind-the-scenes look…

Opening The Door To Resistance

Opening The Door To Resistance

Imagine walking up to the edge of a cliff with a thousand foot drop. You may feel some resistance to getting close to the edge. Why? You’re protecting yourself from danger. Similarly, in counseling, resistance is a way you protect…

Really?!! A Technique To Use When Triggered

Really?!! A Technique To Use When Triggered

If you’re a sex addict in recovery, you know what it means to be “triggered.” Triggering incidents can be emotional, such as feeling angry or sad or anxious, or they can be visual, or tactile, or even auditory. There’s a…

What Is Sexual Addiction & Can It Be Overcome?

What Is Sexual Addiction & Can It Be Overcome?

Sex addiction is a compulsive urge to engage in sexual activity, thoughts, or fantasies in ways that are detrimental to an individual, his or her family, friends, and/or work. It blocks the development of true intimacy in a relationship. Sex…

How To Tell If You’re Addicted To Sex

How To Tell If You’re Addicted To Sex

In its basic and natural form (if there has not been physical or emotional damage along the way) human sexual contact feels good, touching feels good, having an orgasm feels good. This is normal and wonderful. Your innate desire for…

A Porn Addict Talks to “Orgasm”

A Porn Addict Talks to “Orgasm”

For a sex or porn addict, an orgasm takes on a meaning, an importance, a significance that gets in the way of the rest of his or her life. The natural pleasure becomes confused, even missing. In speaking/writing to this aspect of self, the desire for an orgasm, one of our clients moves closer to understanding what is actually driving his need for that one more orgasm … and where that leads.

Porn Guilt—The Gift That Keeps On Giving

Porn Guilt—The Gift That Keeps On Giving

Guilt about your porn addiction, your acting out sexually, is the gift that keeps on giving, and giving and giving—until you’re in the emotional gutter, your self-esteem is toast.   Guilt. You feel “less than.” Guilt. You isolate. You forget…