Is Porn “Killing” Parts of Your Life?

Recently, a story surfaced out of the Midwest about the driver of a tractor-trailer who caused a fatal accident while possibly watching porn videos on his cell phone. Now, seeing as how he hasn’t gone to trial yet, this is all still alleged, but I bring it up because it’s not the first time I’ve heard about something like this …

What “Leaving Neverland” Teaches Us About the Importance of Therapy

If you’ve turned on the news recently, or even checked out any social media or gossip websites, you’ve likely seen dozens of reactions – some good, some bad – to the shocking HBO documentary Leaving Neverland. In this series, two men, Wade Robson and James Safechuck recount their alleged victimization by pop star Michael Jackson back when these men were …

How “Believing Your Own Press” Can Get You in Trouble With Addiction

Recently, a story broke about a YouTube star in his 20s named Austin Jones who’s being sent to jail for 10 years. Why? Because he requested sexually explicit videos of underage girls. He did this numerous times, and the content of these videos as described in the press is terrible. It’s easy enough to look at this story, shake your …

A Walk in the Shoes of Someone With a Sex Addiction

Hollywood and the media have given us a certain idea of what a sex addict and sexual compulsions looks like. Maybe they’re multimillionaire actors and actresses constantly taking home other multimillionaire actors and actresses. Perhaps sex addiction even seems a little fun. Why not surround yourself with rich beautiful people all the time? Then, all they have to do is …

What the Holidays Made Me Do: An Addict’s Guide to Navigating December

Every year around the holidays, people who are stressed, upset, lonely, angry, and afraid call Neulia by Compulsion Solutions. Holidays bring cheer to many, but to those who are addicted, it can bring tremendous suffering. When it seems like the whole world is coming together to celebrate, it’s very easy for an addict to feel that they are missing out. …

Filling the Gaps in Porn and Sex Addiction Treatment

I want to start off by saying that in battling my own addiction to porn, I was profoundly helped by both traditional talk therapy and a 12-step program. I learned a lot from each, and I often hear from others who have been greatly helped by these approaches as well. However, for me, there were unfilled gaps in my recovery. …

Why Specialized Addiction Therapy is Necessary

Men, women, and mental health professionals who have come to a crossroads regarding porn and/or sex addiction often contact me. Despite diligently applying themselves to weekly talk sessions or couples therapy, a sex or porn addict will not progress until the root cause of their addiction is addressed. Without the right treatment, the addict will stall out indefinitely, which is …

Objectification Hurts Everyone

I ran across an article at Psychology Today, which spoke about the sexualization of women and girls, and how damaging it is not only to women, but also to men and boys. I was glad to see this article referencing some scientific studies that were conducted, because frankly, this is an issue, which needs more serious attention than it’s currently …

George Collins and Mt. Diablo

I live in beautiful Walnut Creek, California. The town is in a little valley about 25 miles east of San Francisco. There is a lovely mountain just east of us called Mt. Diablo. Historically, it’s place of wonder and magic to Native Americans. Has been for centuries. Years ago, during my marathon/triathlon days, I used to train on its many …

The “Regular Guy” Sex Addict – More Common Than You Think

Sex addiction can affect anyone, regardless of education, profession, location, religion, background or age. If you think you “can’t” be a sex addict, think again.   In my work as a counselor, one of the more common misconceptions I run into is the idea that sex or porn addicts have a certain “look.” Or, if not their appearance, then something …

If You’re Watching Porn at Work, You Might Have a Big Problem

A few weeks ago there was a story in the news about a Rhode Island lawmaker who distributed printouts of a Wikipedia page to his colleagues, without realizing that it clearly showed open tabs from porn sites at the top of the page.   This lawmaker has since apologized, and he even went so far as to claim that the …

Sex Addiction in the News – This Isn’t a Joke

  While it might seem like the Kardashian family is always in the news, a recent story was of particular importance to me. After being confronted for infidelity on the latest episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians, Scott Disick – longtime boyfriend of Kourtney Kardashian, and father of her 3 children – came out publicly and declared himself a …

Dating Apps: Helping Relationships or Normalizing Sex Addiction?

It can be difficult to meet people sometimes. Our multitasking culture demands more of our time than ever before, and that means longer workdays, less vacation, and far fewer opportunities to bump into “the one.” So, in this regard dating apps seem inevitable. If we can’t be out in the real world looking for relationships, we can at least facilitate …

Jerry Sandusky: The Sins Of The Father Visited Upon The Son

  It’s been a while since the name “Sandusky” has dominated the news, but it popped back up recently when it was revealed that Jeffrey Sandusky, son of the disgraced Penn State assistant coach, was arrested for similarly troubling behavior.   I wish I could say I was surprised to learn about this, but in my business it is unfortunately …

The Sex Addiction Debate: Yes, It’s Real

In the continuing wake of the Anthony Weiner scandal, many voices are chiming in with their own takes on the matter of his sex addiction. Among them is a growing voice of doubt as to whether or not sex addiction even exists. This seems to happen every time some high profile person like Weiner goes into rehab for his issues, …