You Didn’t Cause This, You Can’t Cure It. It’s Not About You
We offer these reassurances to you with the intention that they help soothe your immediate pain—realizing that they are not going to solve the problem of your partner’s acting out behaviors. He will need to seek help and support.
You may very well need to seek help and support as well. We encourage you to think of these reassurances as seeds that are being planted, to take them in as deeply as you can.
- Your partner’s sexually addictive actions are not an indication that he does not love you. Your relationship is not hopeless or doomed because your partner has a problem with sexual compulsivity.
- There is hope. Your relationship isn’t necessarily doomed because your partner has an issue with sexual compulsion.
- You don’t have to decide on the future of your relationship right now.
- You are not weak or damaged because you want to stay with your partner and rebuild your relationship.
- On the other hand, you’re also not weak, damaged, or mean because you want to leave your relationship right now.
- You don’t have to force yourself to trust your partner right now. It is normal to feel angry, upset, and mistrusting.
- You don’t need to go through this time alone. Reach out to friends, family, and other support systems.
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